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I am very, very new to this (dating). I met someone online and we really hit it off. We talked numerous times by email and I was very exicted about the match. One evening he wrote that he was going out for an errand and he'd write more when he got back that evening... I'm still waiting ( a week later)I've sent two emails and hehasn't responded - he just disappeared. It was like being in the middle of a conversation and then an abrupt stop. Match hasn't been closed - he just disappeared.

Suggestions? Input? is this a normal thing?
- May 12th, 2008, 09:37 am
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Best guess from argytunes:

The man is communicating by emailwith the fear that he might lose you?

Don't respond till his next email....then ask him OUTRIGHT when he's going to show up on your doorstep? If hemakes a promise and doesn't keep it without giving you a logical reason for his absence......DUMP HIM!

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- May 12th, 2008, 09:44 am
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I'm no longer a member of Eharmony, but when I joined for 3 months, I had that happen to me right before we got to open communication stage. I'd have some matches to just disappear.

My guess is that they are communicating with several matches at the same time and maybe found someone they are more interested in pursuing online. It happens.

Remember the oxymoron of "meeting someone online'. These people are virtual strangers to you so don't sweat it. You don't know this person from adam, just shrug it off and say Next!
- May 12th, 2008, 10:49 am
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newbikerider, wrote :

Suggestions? Input? is this a normal thing?
It is annoying, but it is common enough to be considered normal. My general rule of thumb: if they don't respond to the second message, I don't send another. Two weeks is plenty of time to compose a reply, even if it is just "I'm really busy, but I haven't had time to reply."
- May 12th, 2008, 02:50 pm
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It's annoying and inconsiderate but it happens a lot. Like one poster said, we really don't know each other. We develope a false sense of intimacy on the internet. That's why preditors are so sucessful. Remember, he is no more to you than you are to him and move on.
- May 12th, 2008, 02:59 pm
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