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I think it has some truth...but don't most lies have a grain of truth as well?
Hormones are just one factor in a myriad of factors....just like the 29 dimensions and yet still I'm looking in my box and thinking ....really....that one is supposed to have the most in common with me???

Actually, on those particular times of the month I do notice that people in general are more receptive to me (male and female)....probably because my skin becomes more balanced and I'm more rosy in the cheek.

Reminds me of my first day ever volunteering in the animal shelter. I grabbed a kitty and commented how friendly it was and quickly the supervisor said "Put her back in the cage....she's in heat!"
- November 4th, 2009, 08:16 pm
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I mean I'm not gonna discount the whole pheromone thing.
I jus dont believe that its such a major factor in who I'm willin
to be with.
My heart tells me, its like a gut thing, an yea sometimes my guy smells really good an makes me wanna rip his clothes off, but those times are few an so far I've been able to resist the impluse. lol
I'm more attracted to him for his personality, his heart, an his mind than on some base chemical level. We have lots of fun together. Always laughin an smilin so much that, seriously, my cheeks do get sore after an hr or two of bein round him or talkin to him on the phone.
- November 5th, 2009, 09:37 am
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Pheromones could explain why we get matched with someone on personality but then there's no "chemistry". Because there's no Chemistry going on.

And perhaps learned attraction -- that which develops after getting to know someone -- is the body learning to like a different pheromone experience because it's associated with a Good Thing?

And perhaps that Chemical Click can occur with people who are unsuitable choices, or just awful people. So the body feels it but the heart/brain goes NO.

I see no reason to doubt something as basic as hormones would have a lot of impact on attraction. Why would we have them, if they don't contribute to mating? (see Darwin)
- November 5th, 2009, 09:55 am
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Sassafras54 wrote :
I see no reason to doubt something as basic as hormones would have a lot of impact on attraction. Why would we have them, if they don't contribute to mating? (see Darwin)
We have lots and lots of hormones that don't have anything at all to do with mating or attraction.
- November 5th, 2009, 10:05 am
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I'll admit it can be a part of it - we all have a natural "scent", that you either find appealing, or not. If that "scent" is pheremones?? Have to admit that snuggling first thing in the morning is more of a pleasure if you also find you're partner's distinct scent appealing, not so much if you don't. My mother passed recently and she had a scent that I used to love when I snuggled into her shoulder; slightly sweet, all her own. Is that pheremones?
- November 5th, 2009, 10:14 am
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People get attracted to people they have nothing in common with all the time ...

I dunno about pheromones, but a lof of the research is suggesting that chemistry is a result of DNA. As in opposite DNA.

This makes sense if you think about how genes work. Recessive traits would tend to be kept out of the gene pool this way and you create the biggest diversity.

Opposites do attract.
- November 5th, 2009, 01:15 pm
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I don't know.

The reason that I doubt this is that I am pretty much always as attracted to a woman from afar as I am when I get close enough to smell her.

I just don't need to get close to know if I am physically attracted.

I don't think that it has an effect on how a mate mentally stimulates us.

Could it have more of an effect on women or others? I don't know.

The fact that women often have illogical needs for "protection" & "survival" then perhaps it can be a factor.
- November 5th, 2009, 01:40 pm
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bigfincat wrote :
I don't know.

The reason that I doubt this is that I am pretty much always as attracted to a woman from afar as I am when I get close enough to smell her.

I just don't need to get close to know if I am physically attracted.

I don't think that it has an effect on how a mate mentally stimulates us.

Could it have more of an effect on women or others? I don't know.

The fact that women often have illogical needs for "protection" & "survival" then perhaps it can be a factor.
Actually I should have qualified my post ... the research is pointing to women sensing the chemistry through smell and/or kissing (ie taste) whereas the guys are mostly looking at visuals ... hip to waist ratios.

Yeah I'm a science nerd.
- November 5th, 2009, 01:47 pm
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there was a study done that women are more attractive during ovulation due to pheremones.

part of the study showed that strippers made more money during ovulation than any other time during their cycle.
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scarlet13 wrote :
there was a study done that women are more attractive during ovulation due to pheremones.

part of the study showed that strippers made more money during ovulation than any other time during their cycle.
I saw that study. *laughs*
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