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That would only be the case if self awareness did not change over time. But it has been my experience that most people become more self-aware with age, which means that their ability to identify, sort through, and let go of that baggage increases. So while it is true that some people continue to accumulate baggage and have more of it as they age, others actually have less with age than they did in youth.

I can tell with with complete certainty that most of my friends in their 40s and 50s have far less baggage than any 20something I know - and definitely far less baggage now than they themselves had in their 20s.
My honest impression of the people I know and have known is that they generally don't become more self aware as they get older. That might be because I know different people than you do....or because what we define as becoming more self aware is different.
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Hm... I don't think that self-awareness--or, rather, its lack--necessarily has anything to do with baggage. What about people like me, who went through traumatic experiences which have interfered with our ability, for example, to relate "affectionately" to the opposite sex. That's clearly baggage (isn't it?) and can clearly afflict even the most self-aware.
- November 4th, 2009, 07:28 am
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I don't think that age has anything to do with either how much baggage someone has but maybe more to do with how they deal with it.

I mean, i spent my youth creating my baggage, lol. now that i'm older i can deal with it better, plus, it's the past. in your 20's your baggage is closer to the surface.
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I don't think that age has anything to do with either how much baggage someone has but maybe more to do with how they deal with it.

I mean, i spent my youth creating my baggage, lol. now that i'm older i can deal with it better, plus, it's the past. in your 20's your baggage is closer to the surface.
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- November 4th, 2009, 07:55 am
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"he txt this i said that he no answer for 4 hrs what is with that so i chill but not talk to him does he luv me"

There's "no baggage" for ya.
- November 4th, 2009, 08:23 am
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"he txt this i said that he no answer for 4 hrs what is with that so i chill but not talk to him does he luv me"

There's "no baggage" for ya.
That's just the semi-literate version of what even 50+ y.o. people ask on this forum.
- November 4th, 2009, 08:43 am
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I know, I'm just teasing you.

I had a male friend who had your point of view, he preferred young women because they were not "jaded" -- his term for "no baggage". That fresh, hopeful thing can be quite attractive. The cost of it is someone who doesn't have a history, has less context, etc. You pays your money and you makes your choices!

I am really not interested myself in dating people more than a few years younger than me, for this reason. I like the history, I like the experience, I like the wisdom, I like the maturity. I'm sure there's the occasional 20something who's unusually evolved, but they're probably 1 in 10 million.
- November 4th, 2009, 08:52 am
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... in your 20's your baggage is closer to the surface.
Evidence to the contrary: the "We Call Them Ex-Wives" Thread.
- November 4th, 2009, 08:56 am
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Sassafras54 wrote :
I know, I'm just teasing you.

I had a male friend who had your point of view, he preferred young women because they were not "jaded" -- his term for "no baggage". That fresh, hopeful thing can be quite attractive. The cost of it is someone who doesn't have a history, has less context, etc. You pays your money and you makes your choices!

I am really not interested myself in dating people more than a few years younger than me, for this reason. I like the history, I like the experience, I like the wisdom, I like the maturity. I'm sure there's the occasional 20something who's unusually evolved, but they're probably 1 in 10 million.
I got it. And I'm just having a little fun with this thread. I know there are advantages and disadvantages to most things, including age.

BTW: if 'unusually evolved' means 'sweet and giving'....then sign me up for some evolved.
- November 4th, 2009, 08:59 am
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Evidence to the contrary: the "We Call Them Ex-Wives" Thread.
and whose fault is that? *I* don't have ex-wife baggage. you chose the wrong one, you lose.

the funny thing is even if an older man dates a baggage-free 20 year old chances are very good that in 5 years, he'll be her baggage.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:01 am
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