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I posted an article here about a woman in my community who was s c a m m ed at Match.com. Post never made it through the mod process. Are we not allowed to warn people about this for some reason?

Guy is likely a Nigerian ... he's swi ped the real identity of one Jack Harper and is still trolling at Match .com for more would-be victims. Our newspaper did a story on his unsuccesful attempt to s c a m a local reader and we got a call from some woman on the East Coast who'd been a victim. Cleaned her out of $82,000. She's still trying to catch him.

It works like most of these sc.ams do. Some lonely woman or guy thinks maybe they've found someone who could be The One but when you try to set up a meet, he or she is in some kinda dire emergency and needs a "loan." s/He'll pay you back as soon as s/he makes it to the states.

Only more and more problems keep occurring ad infinitum until finally the victim wises up and realizes they're out a lot of cash and they ain't found true love.
- November 3rd, 2009, 02:45 pm
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I posted an article here about a woman in my community who was s c a m m ed at Match.com. Post never made it through the mod process. Are we not allowed to warn people about this for some reason?

Guy is likely a Nigerian ... he's swi ped the real identity of one Jack Harper and is still trolling at Match .com for more would-be victims. Our newspaper did a story on his unsuccesful attempt to s c a m a local reader and we got a call from some woman on the East Coast who'd been a victim. Cleaned her out of $82,000. She's still trying to catch him.

It works like most of these sc.ams do. Some lonely woman or guy thinks maybe they've found someone who could be The One but when you try to set up a meet, he or she is in some kinda dire emergency and needs a "loan." s/He'll pay you back as soon as s/he makes it to the states.

Only more and more problems keep occurring ad infinitum until finally the victim wises up and realizes they're out a lot of cash and they ain't found true love.
Perhaps because your post was about another website - this is eHarmony advice, they may not be happy with you mentioning the competition (even in a negative way.)

That said, never send money to someone you've never met.
Unless maybe your mother has met them in person and vouches for them. But even then you should think twice about it.

That particular scam tactic is so old I'm surprised there are still people who fall for it.
Until I remember how many desperately lonely and foolish people there are out there.

"A fool and their money..."
- November 3rd, 2009, 02:52 pm
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It's likely that your earlier post was snagged by the filter and just hasn't been reviewed yet. Once the moderators are able to do that, I expect that it will be posted (except now maybe it won't since it would duplicate this post...).

These unsavory individuals are quite common on dating sites, although much less so here because of all the steps required to sign up (e.g., completing the long questionnaire). However, they do sometimes make their way to eH, too. It does seem somewhat remarkable that they continue to be able to fool people with the same old story, but all it takes is "a one in a million" suc ker for their efforts to be worthwhile.

That being said, if you have any reason to expect that a match falls into this category, please report him/her to eH Customer Service immediately so they can assess the situation and take action if necessary.
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Hi ...um ... can anyone loan me some money?
- November 3rd, 2009, 03:12 pm
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Hi ...um ... can anyone loan me some money?
Sure, just PM me your bank account number and I'll direct deposit however much you need.
- November 3rd, 2009, 03:16 pm
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Here's your original thread:

http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/dating-advice/dating/31905-scam-date.html
- November 3rd, 2009, 03:35 pm
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Hi ...um ... can anyone loan me some money?
No because apparently you'll just blow it on some extravagant date with some unappreciative goldigga kind of chick.

We're doing you a favour really.
- November 3rd, 2009, 05:03 pm
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I was going to buy her a small coffee, no suger, no cream, not even a stirrer.
- November 3rd, 2009, 05:07 pm
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I was going to buy her a small coffee, no suger, no cream, not even a stirrer.
but by eha's definition, coffee 'date' is not a date.

So you'll have to come up with a different plan
- November 3rd, 2009, 05:11 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
I was going to buy her a small coffee, no suger, no cream, not even a stirrer.
OK then.

But feel free to resent her if she doesn't offer to pay for the pie. I really mean that, I have no access to American pies and it's disgraceful that someone who does should not be fully prepared to treat you to the odd slice. Absolutely disgraceful. What kind of pie would it be?
- November 3rd, 2009, 05:15 pm
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