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jayjay wrote :
A couple weeks ago a friend took me across the border into Mexico to meet his sister-in-law, 'R'....but at the last minute she had to work late, so I didn't meet her that weekend. I did meet her whole family though, including her triplet sister.

This past Saturday afternoon I bought some ice cream for her nephews and niece and took it down to them. I actually didn't expect to meet 'R', as she works on Saturdays....but her sister (who I had already met) invited me to go to a children's birthday party and R showed up later.

We got to talk a little bit and enjoyed watching the kids play musical chairs etc. and took some photos. We drove around the city a little bit afterward and she seemed pretty interested in sticking close to me. When I left she asked me when I was going to come back....which my friend and his wife told me is quite forward for her, as they are pretty conservative. Though....apparently by telling her I'm busy next Saturday during the day she got the mistaken impression that I either wasn't really interested in her or that I maybe have another girlfriend. Oy vay.

So this morning I sent her an email with some of the photos we had taken, as I had told her I would. I also explained more about why I'm going to be busy during the day next Saturday....but that I'd still like to come down to see her that evening anyway as I don't want to wait 2 weeks before seeing her again. At least I'm getting a little help from her sister (my friend's wife) to help me navigate the cultural differences that seem to exist.
Wow! Sounds like this could get very interesting jayjay! I think it's good to have a "wing woman" on this one to help guide you along. Keep us posted!

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hah. Tires???!!


I got a whole 'nother CAR !!!! (that I do NOT need.)

I should have tried for a date - instead of this "Albatross".

I am "exhausted".
OMG I can't believe you bought a TOYOTA!

(Not that there's anything wrong with Toyota - but does Mercedes know you're cheating on it?!)
- November 4th, 2009, 03:54 pm
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seagirl11 wrote :
Halloween party and movie with friends on weekend and evening out and drinks with my date yesterday since he is feeling much better . Its kind of weird calling him a date, its in a stage we see each other but not yet bf/gf.
Nice! Hopefully this transitional time goes quickly for you and you can move on to the next stage! While it's the feelings that are most important, having the "labels" helps b/c it defines the relationship. At least that's what I've found! Good luck and keep us posted seagirl11!

lostatsea wrote :
Had to work all weekend. I did have a dinner date last Thursday. The guy seemed nice enough but I'm not sure there was enough spark there for me. He e-mailed me on Friday but no mention of the date or another one. Of course he knew I would be working all weekend. I guess he was just putting out the feelers by sending me an e-mail.
Hmmmm, have you decided what to do? If he asks you out again, might not hurt to see if a spark develops as you get to know him a bit better. But if you know for sure, no sense wasting each other's time -- onward and upward!

Keep us posted!

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Well, had a great party up until my guy got sick.
My mother was partyin with of course, an she was givin him shots.
Well, he can never tell her no, or that he's had enough an he'd only planned on a few beers.
Everything was goin great until then though. We danced and laughed
an sang to eachother an laughed an danced some more. (he can dance good btw)
We went to sit an we were talkin an he closed his eyes like he might move in for a kiss .... an thats when it happened. His eyes popped back open an he said he might get sick an then it was a rush to the trash can!
After he passed out in the chair, I went on to my bed.
Next day we hung out all day. I treated him to dinner. We watched a movie.
We said our good nights in person, then over the phone an crashed out unil monday mornin when it was time to work.
Over all it was a pretty good weekend.

I'm a lil confused with some things that were said las night though.
I'm not quite sure how to take em, in the context they were spoken in. I mean by them self it would be nice an sweet, but mixed with everything else we talked bout, its seems kinda ... I dont know. I guess thats why I'm confused. Oh well. I'll figure it out.
Sorry he got sick but it sounds like it was a good weekend despite that. Re: your confusion, can you just ask him? I'm always amazed at how flat out asking someone something (or telling them something) is so simple and effective. Without doing that I kind of leave myself twisting in the wind the whole time, wondering -- and that's WAY more painful in the end, in my experience, than just getting things out on the table.

Let us know how it goes as you talk to him or figure it out. And woo hoo, Mom partying with you. My mom was the same way back in the day. Since turning 60 she's slowed down a bit

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My Princess and I had a wonderful halloween togeather. She came over to my house at around 3:00. I had preped a roast, pie, bread, and vegetables. Everything was ready to go and as soon as we felt like it we could get it ready. It was such a wonderful day we went out for a long walk. When we got back it was around 5 and we put the roast in the oven and setup the table and settled on the coach for the cooking time. We spent most of the evening in eachothers arms save for dinner and a few trick or treaters inclueding her neice and nephew. We had some real laughs with all the monsters and princesses at the door.

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What an AWESOME weekend you had! Very sweet -- I'm so happy for you!
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Why in the world cant Guys in general jus come on out an say what they are thinkin?
I hate bein in the dark. An I'm curious by nature. So when a guy that says somethin that I dont get I ask, an then when I get an even more
stumperliferious response I get frustrated.

So when a guys says oh I dont know somethin like, "Just wanted to say that you dont have to worry your not going to run me off, we're to close for that." An then calls ya somethin like sexy an hot an tells ya goodnight.
It leaves me thinkin a few things. .. .
1) Where the hecktate did that come from??
2) Does he mean that I'm tryin to run him off an its not gonna work? Or
3) Does he mean that I can say or do whatever without fear of running him off??

When ya thread that into the rest of the conversation everything jus gets more an more muddled. While that by its self isnt that bad, but still a lil confusing. I'm thinkin he didnt mean it in a bad way. But I dont get where it came from either ... From left field maybe?
Las night was like blowin hot then cold all in one convo.

So tjlpd, Good luck in your figurin, I feel ya pain on the mysteries of a man's mind.
Ladies ladies -- have you ASKED them, or told them what was confusing you?

Guys -- correct me if I'm wrong but my sense of it is (and this is a topic for another thread, probably -- I'll start one!) that you guys feel like you communicate clearly with us but because we ladies are so deeply thinking creatures (particularly about relationships) that we get ourselves all worked up over possible (often negative) scenarios which, when / if we finally come out and ask you, were THE furthest thing from your minds.

Am I far off on this? If so, school me!

stevex wrote :
No dates this weekend, though spent several hours on the phone with a lovely lady Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights.
Nice -- sounds like it was one of those awesome conversations that leads to many more awesome conversations. I hope so! Keep us posted

bretagne89 wrote :
I went on my first Eharmony date ever and my first date in over a year on Sunday! It went great. We went to see Zombieland and went to dinner afterward. He called the next night! Saturday is date number 2. I'm really excited.
Awesome bretange89!!!! Keep us posted on how things go with this 2nd date and beyond.

knittingtakesballs wrote :
No dates to report here, but I went to the bay area for a concert... completely a bummer. The music was good but I labored over my costume which no one commented on, and I'm pretty sure I stepped in someone's throw up barefooted at the venue (only barefooted because I was told there was seating for the show, and that we were taking a taxi instead of walking 2 miles so my shoes weren't comfortable enough!)

This coming weekend I'm sure I'll have better to report, I'm meeting an eH match in a romantic locale and couldn't be more stoked.
Yikes -- I hope it wasn't what you thought it was but hopfully this upcoming meet with your eH match will melt away last weekend's bad memories. Please come back and let us know how it goes!

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So help me, if my long-distance match is agreeable, and a seat is available, I'm hopping a last-minute-weekend-flight to the West Coast... Not counting on that actually happening, however. But the thought is sustaining me, anyway.
WOW! That sounds exciting and romantic -- let us know if it works out the way you're hoping!
- November 4th, 2009, 04:28 pm
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hey iconography! i hope you get that seat on that flight to the west coast!!

this weekend i will be visiting Dallas with 7 other girls for my first bachelorette party. should be good times... gotta get through one more day of work first though..
- November 5th, 2009, 12:36 am
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hey iconography! i hope you get that seat on that flight to the west coast!!

this weekend i will be visiting Dallas with 7 other girls for my first bachelorette party. should be good times... gotta get through one more day of work first though..
I just got back from Dallas a couple of weeks ago -- had a BLAST! Hope you have a fun, safe trip and that today doesn't drag too badly for ya
- November 5th, 2009, 01:00 pm
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Looks like it's not going to happen. He's back for only a few days before having to head out "on assignment" again--and he came home to find a Big Problem (as one sometimes does, being gone from house & possessions for weeks at a stretch). Seems like it's going to have to wait until December. Oh, well!
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Iconography wrote :
Looks like it's not going to happen. He's back for only a few days before having to head out "on assignment" again--and he came home to find a Big Problem (as one sometimes does, being gone from house & possessions for weeks at a stretch). Seems like it's going to have to wait until December. Oh, well!
Oh, sorry to hear that!

You have way more patience than I do.
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I just got back from Dallas a couple of weeks ago -- had a BLAST! Hope you have a fun, safe trip and that today doesn't drag too badly for ya
Thanks Lori. Work done! Fun can begin
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Iconography wrote :
Looks like it's not going to happen. He's back for only a few days before having to head out "on assignment" again--and he came home to find a Big Problem (as one sometimes does, being gone from house & possessions for weeks at a stretch). Seems like it's going to have to wait until December. Oh, well!
Boooooo... sorry to hear that oh wells, you're worth waiting for, but is he?
- November 5th, 2009, 11:37 pm
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Oh, yeah, he's worth waiting for! But I am now, because of Things Happening (Or Not), beginning to get the jitters that I am not.... But that's another thread (which I won't be starting. I hope. It's probably just my nerves.
- November 6th, 2009, 12:48 am
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