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I've been on four dates with this new girl and I've picked up on a few things but one thing stands out. She has never told me thanks for anything. It is almost like she expects the things I'm doing, and I do believe she was very spoiled as a child and growing up.

No I don't think I'm owed anything. But I've also paid for everything, she has not even offered which I find strange. I've picked up all the tabs, I'm the one that has been doing the driving, etc. Yet even for something as simple as holding a door open gets no reply.

Is it me or is it not too much to ask for a simple 'thanks'? Also what is a good way to imply that I'm not paying for every thing, every time?
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:03 pm
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Wait till D_Lion joins this thread. He'll be able to help. He's an expert in this field.
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:05 pm
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I find that is really bad manners if she does not say thanks. Weird.

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Not sure how to bring up the sharing expenses part...seems awkward no matter what.

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Just out of curiosity....why do you want to go out again if she can never seem to say thanks?
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:06 pm
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What did she say when you took her to new heights of erotic pleasure?
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:07 pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
Wait till D_Lion joins this thread. He'll be able to help. He's an expert in this field.
lol...don't forget Nanette

(hey that rhymes)
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:07 pm
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LizziePooh wrote :
I find that is really bad manners if she does not say thanks. Weird.

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Not sure how to bring up the sharing expenses part...seems awkward no matter what.

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Just out of curiosity....why do you want to go out again if she can never seem to say thanks?
Agree on point 1.

Point 2. I guess guys can do a test also, maybe invite her to his place and say 'wanna do something low key' and do a simple baked lasagna or something. If she scoffs at the idea, then he'll know.

Point 3. Maybe she's uber hot and he is wondering when he's gonna reap the benefits of being patient
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:10 pm
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Why are you interested in dating someone so rude? The red flag is already there - it's called a sense of entitlement. It will only get worse.
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:12 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
What did she say when you took her to new heights of erotic pleasure?

In these circumstances I like to write a short letter of recommendation for his future use. I find this is well received and may even get him to pay for desert too.
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:12 pm
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You've every right to be concerned. I'm just confused as to why you'd want to address it and continue seeing her.
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:14 pm
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I feel for you on this topic...I've had similar experiences...brief Not brief enough in some instances. Some people are not very verbal with their thanks....they tend to be the same type of people who have a problem saying "I love you"....doesn't mean they don't appreciate but they usually show it in other ways (non verbally or in gestures) There's only one person I have met in my life that I thought was a keeper and he was very good at all three. I'm an old fashioned gal so I expect the provider to provide...but a woman that doesn't show "appropriate"appreciation seems like a person that should be cut loose. (I say appropriate since some guys equate a meal with an open bedroom policy )
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:19 pm
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