sabete2002 is offline sabete2002 Post #81  November 3,2009, 5:47pm
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Date today:

Me: Can I get this?

Him: Can you? (Being cheeky)

Me: Ok, I mean I will get this.

Him: Thank you.

He held the first door out of the restaurant for me, I held the second one for him.

Dating in the millenium. Give and take. Treating each other with respect. It's not rocket science.
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
Didn't hurt us any did it Shoop?

Look at us now. Fine specimens of polite datelessness.
So true it's scary It seems everywhere I look rudeness is rewarded and promoted....hey it got 4 dates out of vinlukin (sorry to say) Maybe she should go out with that guy who didn't tip and was a bit reluctant to dish out the five bucks for the mariachi. I would give her his number but he also went *poof* I'm tired of being polite....I just want to be treated right
 
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PY_2 wrote :
It just dawned on me.....think about if he dried himself first, then use the same towel to dry the shower walls...if she's a germaphobe, then she'll freak out.

Kinda like some people are freaked out about sharing soap......
Unless you bleach the towels...the germs tend to just get spread out among the clothes in the wash. I use liquid soap But technically you can't call me a germaphobe because I believe in the ten second rule...at least in my own house
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
And they lived happily ever after (at least that's what we wish for you both).
I like this plan.
 
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vinlukin is offline vinlukin Post #85  March 4,2012, 1:34pm
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FWIW:

Bumping an old thread but just was bored and logged on...

We are still together and it is working very well. It turned out she had student loans that made it tough for her to spend much extra and she wasn't comfortable discussing financials based on four dates. We had a discussion and she understood my thinking and position and really I have no complaints. There is a healthy amount of gratitude expressed from each of us.

We've lived together for a year now and I am very happy. Sure we have disagreements at times but money has never been the topic that caused the frustration. Now if I could just get her to drop the country music...
 
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vinlukin wrote :
FWIW:

Bumping an old thread but just was bored and logged on...

We are still together and it is working very well. It turned out she had student loans that made it tough for her to spend much extra and she wasn't comfortable discussing financials based on four dates. We had a discussion and she understood my thinking and position and really I have no complaints. There is a healthy amount of gratitude expressed from each of us.

We've lived together for a year now and I am very happy. Sure we have disagreements at times but money has never been the topic that caused the frustration. Now if I could just get her to drop the country music...
Excellent!

Forget about banning country music. Those fans shrivel up and die without it.
 
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Vinlukin (Who is the OP of this thread),

Thanks for coming back and giving us an update ! I am glad to hear that things worked out.

We love hearing good ending stories

As this thread is really old, if you want to discuss other things, please create a new thread. In any case, an update by the OP to an old thread is always welcome.

vinlukin wrote :
FWIW:

Bumping an old thread but just was bored and logged on...

We are still together and it is working very well. It turned out she had student loans that made it tough for her to spend much extra and she wasn't comfortable discussing financials based on four dates. We had a discussion and she understood my thinking and position and really I have no complaints. There is a healthy amount of gratitude expressed from each of us.

We've lived together for a year now and I am very happy. Sure we have disagreements at times but money has never been the topic that caused the frustration. Now if I could just get her to drop the country music...
 
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vinlukin wrote :
Also what is a good way to imply that I'm not paying for every thing, every time?
If dating someone who is appreciative is important to you (and it would be to me), the best way to "imply" this is to start dating someone else.

I'm sorry if that's blunt. But that's the way I would expect most men with self-confidence to look at this situation. You gave her FOUR opportunities to express some thanks and ... well, she didn't.
 
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lacedwithhope wrote :
If dating someone who is appreciative is important to you (and it would be to me), the best way to "imply" this is to start dating someone else.

I'm sorry if that's blunt. But that's the way I would expect most men with self-confidence to look at this situation. You gave her FOUR opportunities to express some thanks and ... well, she didn't.
They worked it out:

vinlukin wrote :
FWIW:

Bumping an old thread but just was bored and logged on...

We are still together and it is working very well. It turned out she had student loans that made it tough for her to spend much extra and she wasn't comfortable discussing financials based on four dates. We had a discussion and she understood my thinking and position and really I have no complaints. There is a healthy amount of gratitude expressed from each of us.

We've lived together for a year now and I am very happy. Sure we have disagreements at times but money has never been the topic that caused the frustration. Now if I could just get her to drop the country music...
 
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harnomygirl wrote :
They worked it out:
Another great example of how patience is a virtue! lol I guess I missed the part where she showed any indication at all in four dates that she appreciated him.

How great that they're still together though!
 
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