PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #71  November 3,2009, 3:09pm

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Gumbee wrote :
Gotta jump in here and say regardless if couples are taking turns, splitting costs, whatever - Thank You is still in order: Thank you for a nice time, thank you for such a great date idea, etc... It needs to be said - gratitude (for whatever) should always be expressed. The lack of expressions of gratitude leads to one or the other being taken for granted. To the OP, you should expect no less.

As far as one poster commented: I disagree - cute people don't deserve special treatment just because of their genetics.
Wait I thought that's what I said...cuteness doesn't mean that you can be rude (or you were referring to other poster).

Sorry I bumped my head yesterday...can't think straight.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
If you’re splitting costs or alternating, I agree it is unnecessary to express gratitude.
Completely disagree about alternating.

Who knows when the last time you will go out with someone is?

Regardless, even if it's *only* alternating you should still show your gratitude for someone choosing to pick up the bill on a given occasion. It's basic respect and decency.

I think I was raised in a similar manner to Trixie, except for me it was the fear of the slap than an actual slap.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #73  November 3,2009, 4:17pm

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What's the price of saying 'thank you'

Really??
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #74  November 3,2009, 4:19pm

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Didn't hurt us any did it Shoop?

Look at us now. Fine specimens of polite datelessness.
 
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Didn't hurt us any did it Shoop?

Look at us now. Fine specimens of polite datelessness.
It's funny because it's true.
 
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PY_2 wrote :
Wait I thought that's what I said...cuteness doesn't mean that you can be rude (or you were referring to other poster).

Sorry I bumped my head yesterday...can't think straight.
Hi PY - ya, it was in response to another poster's comment. I guess you said it first though, but at least you and I agree.
 
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Gumbee wrote :
Hi PY - ya, it was in response to another poster's comment. I guess you said it first though, but at least you and I agree.
Phew! *wipes forehead*
 
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Her upbringing and values are set and flawed, and a golddigger is born. And the more men put up with it, the more she will do it.

OP, it will not get any better. It will stay the same or get worse, and you will get more roped in and it will be a lot more painful later.

OP, you need some backbone and you need to communicate your feelings to her effectively and stand up for yourself and your values. You are allowing her to walk all over you and you are giving her the upper hand.

I hate to be so blunt, but I made the same mistakes when I was younger and it will only cost you valuable years in your life and destroy you.

I was in a two year relationship with a woman like this and was in relationships like tthis in the past. It it cost me was time, money, and frustration.

I kept hoping this relationship would turn the corner and it times it showed promise, but it never turned the corner and it got worse. It turns out it was her deeprooted bad upbringing and hereditary addiction to drugs.

And it turns out she was in relationships in the past and got all her meals paid for all the time. She dated lots of doctors and lawyers before me.
 
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Well, let me tell you how it went down for me for the first couple of dates with my fiance.

Date 1 - Olive Garden. I pay.
Date 2 - Mexican place, then a movie. I pay for both.
Date 3 - Aquarium (60 bucks). I pay. We go to PF Changs for dinner, and she quickly grabs the check. I get all indignant, telling her that I asked, therefore I pay. She's all cool and says, "No, you paid for the Aquarium. I've got this."

Do you know how awesome that was? It totally cemented my interest in this girl. It showed me that she was interested in me. It was completely awesome.
 
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Mr_Right wrote :
Well, let me tell you how it went down for me for the first couple of dates with my fiance.

Date 1 - Olive Garden. I pay.
Date 2 - Mexican place, then a movie. I pay for both.
Date 3 - Aquarium (60 bucks). I pay. We go to PF Changs for dinner, and she quickly grabs the check. I get all indignant, telling her that I asked, therefore I pay. She's all cool and says, "No, you paid for the Aquarium. I've got this."

Do you know how awesome that was? It totally cemented my interest in this girl. It showed me that she was interested in me. It was completely awesome.
And they lived happily ever after (at least that's what we wish for you both).
 
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