LizziePooh is offline LizziePooh Post #21  November 2,2009, 6:09pm

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Why do people state that some people have trouble saying "Thanks"? Why would someone have trouble with that?
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Hi, I'm an old fashoined guy so I expect a woman to submit to her man and the labor market to insure she is marginalized into meaningless clerical roles regardless of her skills.

Until then, you have no right to my money.

Stop trying to lure me into your froggy grasp with your witty sarcasm. I know I am so much more than a secretary....I'll send you my resume so you can help me do some good PR and get me the job/title/income I truly deserve. Keep your money...I'm reduced to salad greens anyway
 
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LizziePooh wrote :
Why do people state that some people have trouble saying "Thanks"? Why would someone have trouble with that?

Guys can't answer this question.

Need to go to the source.
 
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Now you know perfectly well if he does that she'll come here and start a thread complaining about the loser who stuck her with the bill after asking for a date.

Personally, I offer to help pay the first time and I insist on the second. If a man has issues with that, it's open for communication and negotiation, but I'm not looking to be bought and paid for (and if I was, the price would be considerably higher than a handful of dinners).
I hope she does, I'll thank her too for starting a thread.

Personally I don't let my dates pay, I was in a ltr with a miss never say thank you..It just wears you down.

Lbmm. I never thought you were anything but classy
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btw- off topic... did you happen to catch the monkey funeral in the news? if I find it on youtube I'll pm it to you..
 
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to the OP:

next time just say your welcome really loudly and snotty like. she'll get the hint, hopefully. i doubt it though.
 
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i thank everyone for their posts today.

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Now I am curious...Thank you is a reflex (or should be). I don't consciously think of saying it; it just comes out.

Does she say thank you to help staff? Is it just you she does not thank or is it everyone that she comes in contact with when you are out with her?
 
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LizziePooh wrote :
Why do people state that some people have trouble saying "Thanks"? Why would someone have trouble with that?
+1!!!
It's common courtesy to say "thank you" when someone else does something for you. Pays for dinner, holds the door open, holds the elevator, fixes your car, etc... Saying thanks is so common place in our lives that to not say it after your date pays for dinner is simply rude/poor manners. In my experience, most people who do not say "thank you" have a sense of entitlement.
 
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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
I hope she does, I'll thank her too for starting a thread.

Personally I don't let my dates pay, I was in a ltr with a miss never say thank you..It just wears you down.

Lbmm. I never thought you were anything but classy
(and funny)


btw- off topic... did you happen to catch the monkey funeral in the news? if I find it on youtube I'll pm it to you..
See, now we're negotiating. Also, thank you!

Didn't see the monkey funeral. Was it a relative of mine? They're dropping like flies these days. One day soon, I'll be able to write that memoir without fear of a torch-bearing mob!

Yes to PM. And thank you again.
 
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Actually she is pretty cool overall and is really smart and easy to have a good conversation with. She and I have some nice things in common, so I was willing to see if she was just trying to find some sort of comfort level.

Last night we were at dinner and our waitress set the bill down and I just let it sit there for a few minutes thinking maybe she would get the hint. No dice.

I've never dated anyone who hasn't at least offered, she did offer to split our first lunch meetup but I covered it because I had to make some last minute changes of venue. I figured since I did change the plans last minute I could at least pick up the tab.

Saturday we are supposed to hit a museum, I'm going to eat right before she gets here so I won't be hungry all day. I'm going to wait until she is so hungry she suggests getting something to eat, then technically it would be her idea, plus I'm going to give her the where are you taking me to line.

For those that are asking about why I'm still dating her, well it usually takes me a bit more than a couple of sidesteps to get bothered. The last girl I dated got freaked out because I wiped her shower out with the towel after I used it. I was just thinking of cleaning up after myself. She thought it was too strange and that was one of the reasons she said why she wanted to break up. I refuse to be that person who dumps someone over something so stupid.

I also believe this behavior might not entirely be her fault and that her parents should hold some of the blame. I have the feeling they didn't tell her no very much. She is in her mid 20's so I would have thought she would know better though.
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