I've just come out of a 12 year relationship one of only two relationships i've ever had.

Am i ready for dating? Meh who knows i wasn't looking for it thats for sure.

A few weeks ago a cute guy start's chating to me in the gym, everythings fine, he's quite young (much younger than me) but i realise people tend to mistake my age as luckily i do look quite young, the subject of age comes up and sort of joked about it but although he seemed quite shocked to find out how old i was it didn't seem to put him off.

I don't really think much of it to be fair but at the end he ask's me if im on facebook and ask's if i mind him looking me up. A week go's by i see him every day, every day he jokes that he still can't find me on facebook and it becomes abit of a running joke. Eventually i put the guy out of his misery and give him my facebook details.

After that we started chatting get on great, he email's me tons and everything is fine. The age doens't seem to bother either of us, though i have to admit i'm worried that we are at different "lifestages" he still lives at home with his parent has no regular work, while im a sucessful buisness woman with my own house/car and kids!! he's never dated anyone with kids but insist's he doens't care.

He can me very forward (sexually) both in email and in person in term's of joking and flirting, but insist's that if anything was going to happen i'd have to make the first move. He say's i intimidate him because im so out of his league physically (his words not mine).

I've just come out of a difficult relationship from a partner who made a pastime of putting me down and although personality wise im quite outgoing and naturally flirty im not confident when it comes to guys.

We've been out to coffee together which was my idea which was nice we chatted things went well, but haven't been out since (over a week ago) we see each other everyday in the gym

I'm starting to get frustrated, he say's he's not a decision makers and that it's up to me to decide the next step, his email's are constently telling me how attractive he finds me and frankly his converstation tends to lean towards things of a sexual nature.

Normally i'd just think he was being sleazy but it's in a way that leads me to belive it's nerves trying to cover up how inexperienced he feel's in comparison to me.

He say's he doens't have much luck with girls which is crazy because he's very cute,but having spent the past month or so chatting with him i can now almost see why.. I'm starting to feel he's all talk and no action. haha. so i can see why girls would get bored of waiting for him to make a move.

I know this is the 20th century and i could make a move but i;ve reached the point now where im not sure if he does like me or if im some distraction to flirt with when he has nothing better to do in the evening. Last thing i want is to be notch 260 on the bed post of a guy who play's these games for fun.

I just can't make up my mind if he likes me? or if im a game.. I know i have a tendency to be abit paranoid but what do you think?

Don't take the ankle-biters too seriously unless you like playthings. Especially at the gym.... a woman alone at a gym is a magnet for schools of minnows. He's already shown you his cards in the sexy emails. If it's been a while since you've been out there, you might find it a little strange. A lot of women maintain themselves better into later years (40+), and a lot of men (<25) are chasing them. I wouldn't spend too much time wondering about this guy if I were you, it's time better spent elsewhere.

You see thats exactly what im worried about, im a proffessional dancer and the trainers in the gym often joke that im a local celebrity in that they call me the "It girl".

When they train other women and they ask for their goals they often say "i want to look like her".

Don't get me wrong i seriously doubt i command that sort of attention... haha but i do spend alot of time and effort in keeping myself in shape though in truth im possibly alittle more muscular than most women would aim to be.

The truth most people in the gym know me by name the last thing i need is gossip's talking about how "easy i was" or how "dumb" i am to be taken in by some young lad. (he's not actually that much younger just 6 years) but lifestage wise we are miles apart and he seem's unable to put in any real effort in his end that doens't involve the gym or email.