nightling is offline nightling Post #21  November 4,2009, 2:56pm
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I’m starting to feel this is exactly the case, he seem’s far more interested in the fantasy of me than he is in me. I’ve suggested on a number of occasion’s getting out of the gym setting and other than one coffee (held in the gym coffee bar i might add) he’s always busy. I’m quite well known at the gym I have a lot of acquaintances there, people I chat and say hello too and I’m now starting to wonder if it’s the prestige of me not actually me he’s interested in, if that makes any sort of sense without sounding big headed. fficeffice" />

I sent him an email yesterday morning explaining that i was confused about his intention’s and that this “forward / backward” behaviour was driving me mental and that i was backing off till he made up his mind what he wanted and made a move all by himself and that i thought all the very forward sexual conversation’s weren’t appropriate as he was setting us both up for failure, after all we haven’t even kissed yet and sex was a LONG way in the future.

Yesterday in the gym we chatted as we worked out about mundane things but he did slip in that he was being “good” ie not dirty. Towards the end i pulled him to one side and asked him in no-uncertain terms if he liked me and if he intend us getting out of the gym at any point ever or was i going to be his flirting gym buddy in 10 years. I suggested dinner or lunch which i then he replied it was just “weird” and ran off.

Later he emailed me and said when i dragged him a side he thought i was going to kiss him *rolls eye’s* so i asked him what was wrong with the idea of dinner, at which point he replied saying that he didn’t want to be the guy my kids saw as being the reason i wasn’t with their father. Now while i understand being the other man must be very daunting, we arn’t anywhere near the point of introductions so it seem’s alittle early to worry about that specific problem.

This morning we are back to sex jokes... *sigh* just been the gym and i decided i wasn’t going to talk to him as im always the one doing the running around and frankly im fed up of chasing him, Other than a few passing comments as he moved passed the machines i was using and the odd smile he made no attempt to talk to me.

Yes indeed i think it’s time to let this one go as a waste of time.
yeah ... the back and forth pattern amd the additional information you posted is definitely making me lean toward this guy's just been playing with you.
 
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He sounds like a child. Don't lower yourself.
 
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