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I'm just not getting the point here. Now that you've dropped some weight, are you assuming that every woman who's not as attractive as you (according to your definition of it, whatever it is) will automatically be attracted to your somewhat-less-obese bad self? Who told you that's how it works?
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:32 pm
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melman wrote :
I'm just not getting the point here. Now that you've dropped some weight, are you assuming that every woman who's not as attractive as you (according to your definition of it, whatever it is) will automatically be attracted to your somewhat-less-obese bad self? Who told you that's how it works?
You nailed it Melman.
- November 2nd, 2009, 09:25 pm
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I have to ask was the cologne called black panther?

ok so that was a little below the belt. Um so personally since you're putting this much thought and effort . . . . And defending yourself there are some self esteem and confidence issues there. . . .

Personally if you absolutely feel perplexed why not simplify by unthinking this whole deal.

Simple answer something turned her off and she was polite, obliged a kiss and moved on . . . .

Good luck with the next date
- November 6th, 2009, 04:56 pm
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She was HUGE and didn't match her picture. I didn't let on in the least.
*W_R_O_N_G!*

How could you possibly know that. Why didn't you end the date then? Why did you kiss her goodnight? Why did you pursue her afterward?

Talk about mixed signals and bad presumptions. You hated how she looked and then pursued her and then think you made no signals. You're way better looking than her so she should've like you? It's a complete mess and now you're blaming her. SHEESH! WOW! [/quote]
- November 7th, 2009, 05:14 pm
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[quote=WeDesignOurLives;790215]*W_R_O_N_G!*

How could you possibly know that. Why didn't you end the date then? Why did you kiss her goodnight? Why did you pursue her afterward?

Talk about mixed signals and bad presumptions. You hated how she looked and then pursued her and then think you made no signals. You're way better looking than her so she should've like you? It's a complete mess and now you're blaming her. SHEESH! WOW!

YOU Sir are pretty much the reason dating is so damn hard today...because, men like you, pollute the waters so much that women don't know which way is up from down and as a result act so paranoid, resistant, even hostile at times.

I'm really serious... men who solely blame women for the games they play are just heartless idiots. Men have trained women to be defensive more than women have trained men to be heartless.

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- November 7th, 2009, 05:18 pm
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Aside from everything everyone seems to be nailing you on in your post (charming, pointing out that she didn't resemble her pic and was overweight etc...) they say kisses tell and possibly even though you tried to maintain some normalcy during the date, your body language and the kiss were pretty telling that you weren't really interested in her. She may not be a looker but must have some deep insight.

I see why your ego is bruised. You feel you are superior to her in most ways and she should have continued the chase. Be glad that she went silently into the night and that you didn't have to hurt her feelings. If we could all be so wise.
- November 8th, 2009, 02:05 pm
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I have a hunch that if you come off in person as arrogant as you come off in this post=your answer. Work on dealing with your own insecurity and don't worry about her.
- November 8th, 2009, 02:20 pm
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Perhaps, she saw how attractive you were and sensed nothing was going to happen since she was"huge" and just shut down.
She was probably relieved to get away from someone so attractive.
People who are "huge" tend to sometimes have an inferiority complex.
And no one get all flustered, I do not mean all overweight people have inferiority issues but some do.
She could have also sensed a condescending tone since you were trying so hard to be"nice".
I say let it go and date more and see if your other dates happen the same way or similar,, that will tell you, YOU are doing something wrong,, not them.
Then work on it to fix it.
- November 8th, 2009, 04:37 pm
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Wow, what I see here is PLAYER!

Ur "SOP" really means, "STUCK ON P....." =(Smthg. below the belt!)

The only thing ur flying, is the seat of ur PANTS!

PILOT?? Yea right!, BOY-TOY MODEL AIRPLANES in the Backwoods of GEORGIA!

PLAYERS are NEVER SATISFIED, will always SEARCH for the NEXT LUSTS!
- November 12th, 2009, 01:43 am
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