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I recently renewed my membership on eH after a four month break.

The only thing I changed was my occupation. I changed it to my professional designation because my rather generic 'business analyst' job title is going to change as part of a re-organization at work and I didn't want to deal with questions from people I am communicating with about a change in my occupation in the midst of the process.

I've had far more successful communications thus far than at any other time I've used eH. More matches getting to OC and fewer closures. I don't think I'm answering questions differently and that wouldn't have an effect on the closure rate anyways.

When I do go on dates with the people I meet this going forward what should I think about why I have been more successful this time around?

Should I be concerned that my occupation played a noticeable role in my success?

Should I just be thankful?
- November 1st, 2009, 07:05 pm
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I also became an active member last week after being inactive for over 2 years.

One thing I noticed right away was that in the initial few days of new matches, most of them viewed my profile. Like maybe 15 out of the first 20. However it appears that these were all the actives they had for me - the next 30+ have been inactives. I don't know how relevant that is to you.

You didn't say what you listed your new occupation as, but I can't see why it would make a difference.
- November 1st, 2009, 07:12 pm
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My experience and reading is that occupation is the single most important criteria women are using to screen men (and sensibly, since it is one thing which is definitive, unlike, say, “I like walks on the beach”), and is so significant to lifestyle.

When I changed from “supervisor” to “accountant,” I got a lot more too.

As long as you are meeting women who are within your professional rank, I do not think you should think adversely of them, even though many of them would not have communicated if they thought you to be a lower rank.
- November 1st, 2009, 07:13 pm
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Snoop, haven't you updated your photos? You mentioned that you are in better shape now.

It's possible that superficial women are interacting with you now.

Enjoy.
- November 1st, 2009, 07:31 pm
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And, while we're at it, maybe you got older and crossed a "round number year." For instance, going from 29 to 30 gets you all the people selecting "30 to 40" for matches.

Easy to test: experiment with different occupational descriptions (as I did) or incomes (on the sites with income, also as I did), and you'll be reassured ... of your original conclusion - about which you can do nothing.
- November 1st, 2009, 07:40 pm
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Unless the woman puts money at the top of her list, the typical average occupation (anywhere from all office type position, police officer, fire fighter) shouldn't make a difference.

Then again I put mine as exotic male model/CEO of Fortune 500 company so my experience might be different than most of you
- November 1st, 2009, 07:53 pm
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My occupation is very important to me. It just seems to confuse my matches.
- November 1st, 2009, 08:05 pm
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My syncopation is very important to me. It just seems to throw off my matches.
- November 1st, 2009, 08:13 pm
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clearlyoblique wrote :
Snoop, haven't you updated your photos? You mentioned that you are in better shape now.

It's possible that superficial women are interacting with you now.

Enjoy.
No I haven't updated my photos yet. Gotta get off my (now smaller) butt and buy a digital camera I guess.

I may be attracting superficial women now, but it's not because of my pics ... yet.
- November 1st, 2009, 08:22 pm
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I think it is unfair to call them "superficial" for not wanting to be dragged down by a low income mate. Healthy self-protection is what it is.

Way back in olden days, when introductions came through family mostly, class compatibility was a given. Really, nothing about wanting that is new.
- November 1st, 2009, 08:28 pm
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