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shoopthedoop wrote :
No I haven't updated my photos yet. Gotta get off my (now smaller) butt and buy a digital camera I guess.

I may be attracting superficial women now, but it's not because of my pics ... yet.
No need to buy a camera. Just get a friend to take some pics. They'll be better than the 'me in a mirror' shots you could do yourself anyway.
- November 1st, 2009, 08:30 pm
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shoopthedoop wrote :
...The only thing I changed was my occupation. I changed it to my professional designation because my rather generic 'business analyst' job title is going to change as part of a re-organization at work and I didn't want to deal with questions from people I am communicating with about a change in my occupation in the midst of the process.

I've had far more successful communications thus far than at any other time I've used eH. More matches getting to OC and fewer closures. I don't think I'm answering questions differently and that wouldn't have an effect on the closure rate anyways.

When I do go on dates with the people I meet this going forward what should I think about why I have been more successful this time around?

Should I be concerned that my occupation played a noticeable role in my success?

Should I just be thankful?
You are overthinking this far too much. Your occupation title isn't the only thing that has changed.... your profile is also being seen by a different set of women. Honestly, I don't know why sometimes we get a better response than others... could be the full moon out for all we know.

I would not view the past women disparagingly, nor the current women with suspicion, just because you changed your occupation on your profile.

As long as what you have listed accurately describes what you do, I don't see how it would have any influence at all on your response rate. I know I would respond the same whether a guy's profile said "business analyst" "financial analyst" "accountant" "CPA" or whatever other similar variations there are out there for a financial/accounting job.

I went one full year with NO dates off of eHarmony... not even a phone call. In the past 2 months I've had 2 guys I dated, plus now a third one I'm preparing to meet. Not one single thing has changed on my profile. Not one. It's more a matter of timing... serendipity... and that someone interested in you happens to be on the site the same time you are.
- November 1st, 2009, 08:40 pm
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
My occupation is very important to me. It just seems to confuse my matches.
If I recall it is monkey rustler
- November 1st, 2009, 08:42 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
If I recall it is monkey rustler
Wrangler. Rustler makes it sound like I steal the monkeys. In fact, what I do is persuade them to take up my cause. Sometimes that persuasion may involve force, but never theft.
- November 1st, 2009, 08:53 pm
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There are certain occupations that I just don't wish to associate myself with in a romantic situation. When I get someone who has listed those occupations then I just close "because of what is in the profile" reason.

There are stereotypes of certain personalities associated with certain occupations. Engineers and accountants are typically viewed as not being fun. Yet there is at least one accountant type on these boards who is swooned over by the ladies and widely viewed as being "fun". It would appear from some other threads that most are not aware of his occupation so I wonder if their perceptions would change.
- November 1st, 2009, 08:53 pm
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
Wrangler. Rustler makes it sound like I steal the monkeys. In fact, what I do is persuade them to take up my cause. Sometimes that persuasion may involve force, but never theft.
I stand corrected. I didn't think that rustler sounded correct but it was the only word that was coming to mind at the time.
- November 1st, 2009, 08:55 pm
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As long as what you have listed accurately describes what you do, I don't see how it would have any influence at all on your response rate. I know I would respond the same whether a guy's profile said "business analyst" "financial analyst" "accountant" "CPA" or whatever other similar variations there are out there for a financial/accounting job.

It has an enormous effect.

When I changed from high school to college graduate (age 27, as I went at night), that had a very big effect on the likelihood women would reply, or send me first e-mails.

When I changed from “supervisor” to “accountant” had a huge effect too.

Both of the above were larger than when I went from no photo to photo posted.

I also played around with changing income (on Match), with the (obvious) results that higher stated income = more women, and better women.

Like it or not, it matters hugely.
- November 1st, 2009, 09:05 pm
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AFAIK, the OP still hasn't said what the new occupation in his profile is. He changed from "business analyst" to what?
- November 1st, 2009, 09:07 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
There are stereotypes of certain personalities associated with certain occupations. Engineers and accountants are typically viewed as not being fun. Yet there is at least one accountant type on these boards who is swooned over by the ladies and widely viewed as being "fun". It would appear from some other threads that most are not aware of his occupation so I wonder if their perceptions would change.
Those are the stereotypes I was originally hoping to avoid by listing my job title. Guess the tradeoff is worth it.

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It has an enormous effect.

When I changed from high school to college graduate (age 27, as I went at night), that had a very big effect on the likelihood women would reply, or send me first e-mails.

When I changed from “supervisor” to “accountant” had a huge effect too.

Both of the above were larger than when I went from no photo to photo posted.

I also played around with changing income (on Match), with the (obvious) results that higher stated income = more women, and better women.

Like it or not, it matters hugely.
Surely it does matter.

So far I've seen more women as a result of the occupation change, will have to wait for IRL meetings to see if that equates to better women.
- November 1st, 2009, 09:11 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
It has an enormous effect.

When I changed from high school to college graduate (age 27, as I went at night), that had a very big effect on the likelihood women would reply, or send me first e-mails.

When I changed from “supervisor” to “accountant” had a huge effect too.

Both of the above were larger than when I went from no photo to photo posted.

I also played around with changing income (on Match), with the (obvious) results that higher stated income = more women, and better women.

Like it or not, it matters hugely.
I can certainly see that changing from high school graduate to college graduate would have a completely different appeal to women (I won't respond to any profile that is only a high school graduate). But I really can't see that "supervisor" to "accountant" should have made much difference at all. My only comment is that "accountant" is much more specific than "supervisor" (although "accountant" could be stretched from a bookkeeper/accounting clerk to a CPA.) That wouldn't cause me to respond or not to any differing degree, but I would want to know what kind of "supervisor" you were once we got into OC. More because a supervisor in a restaurant or in retail works crazy hours vs. a supervisor in an office situation.
- November 1st, 2009, 09:19 pm
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