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Sawyer76 is offline Sawyer76 Post #1  November 1,2009, 4:36pm
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I'm considering using a Matchmaking service because I feel online dating hasn't been very successful for me. I know it's possible meet a quality guy online but I've been mislead way too many times and am finding myself in the same position I've been for the last 5 years...single. So, they say not to keep doing something that isn't working which is why I thought I should try another outlet.

Wondering what you all think of matchmaking services. I think it eliminates the members being deceitful or misleading about their physical appearance and I am assuming anyone using a matchmaking service would be more serious about meeting someone and not just looking for a casual hook up.

Any thoughts, reviews, opinions of which service to use etc? thanks!
 
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Sawyer, I have been trying to make up my mind about using e-harmony. What kinds of experiences did you have?

If you do use a matchmaking service, I'd be interested to hear how it turns out.
 
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Sawyer76 wrote :
I am assuming anyone using a matchmaking service would be more serious about meeting someone and not just looking for a casual hook up.

I don't agree with this assumption.

Other than that, it is higher cost and an additional venue.

Some folks here have tried, or know people who did. For some it worked, for others it did not. Sort of like every other method.
 
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I went through the interview process for a service in my area, then when we got to the cost they were very reluctant to give me a price. Ultimately, when I pushed for an answer what I got was in the thousand's range. I think I will hang out here for a while.
 
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Hi Nightling. Well, when i first tried online dating (4 years ago) I started with match. I felt like it was a 24 hr bar scene. I have also heard firsthand stories of guys that use match just to build up their "database" of women, guys that use it because they say it's easy sex and even scarier, guys who are attached and cheating. I know this can happen anywhere but it just seems more prevalent on match for some reason. I guess the quick aspect of winking. Then I tried Yahoo personals and felt their database was smaller than match and a lot of the same people and same issues. And P.S., 4 years later, a lot of the guys I saw when I first started are still on there...not sure what that means but, something's got to be broke with the system in my opinion if you're seeing a lot of the same faces. This is what prevents me from joining again and in the 4 years, I've been more off those sites than on them.

I decided to try EH about 2 years ago and thought I was making this huge step up in dating sites and expecting a big difference in outcome. EH has been mostly disappointing for me. I would say in the last 2 years, I might have been off for about 6 months and in all this time, I have met 2 guys. It's a wonder why I keep renewing my subscription. When I first joined I was bombarded with matches, like 10 a day for about a month or so. Then it drastically drops down over time. Now, I go days without any matches and then maybe get 1 or 2. Majority of my matches are outside of the criteria I set to be matched with or don't have photos posted. My issue with EH is that you don't know who is a paying member and who isn't and I would expect more from this site. There have been times that I have been sent a match and then try to initiate communication and nothing happens. They may not be interested but usually they will view you and you can see they viewed your profile. But if they don't view you and don't respond, I assume they aren't paying members. This happens often to me and my friends. I just don't feel the level of service EH provides to it's paying members is up to par especially for how much they charge. If nothing else, we should be guaranteed everyone is a paying member.

I've looked up reviews for matchmaking services and there's a lot of negative feedback on many of them. So I'm very skeptical because they are so expensive.
 
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My expierence was similar to Diann1950

When I was given the price. My response to them was "my first car didn't cost that much" Anyways, If you do try it, Please come back and post your expierences with it!
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Nightling-I wrote a very lengthy response to you but received a notice that it was being reviewed by a moderator. I think bc I mentioned names of dating sites. If it doesn't get posted I'll rewrite.
 
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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
When I was given the price. My response to them was "my first car didn't cost that much"

eHahaha cost more than my first car!
 
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I've turned matching on again, so now it's the waiting game. I think when my subscription runs out and I don't find someone. I think I'll go back to my one night stands. I think that will get me more actions.

Maybe I'm better off just hanging out single
 
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I don't believe that I could afford a matchmaking service.
 
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