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Nightling-I wrote a very lengthy response to you but received a notice that it was being reviewed by a moderator. I think bc I mentioned names of dating sites. If it doesn't get posted I'll rewrite.
Nope. You can mention the names of other dating sites.
- November 2nd, 2009, 07:10 am
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Sawyer76 I have had a similar experience on Match and Yahoo! Personals as you with the same people being on both sites. However, I never equated it to a bar scene nor did the very few people that actually communicated with me seem to be looking for anything casual. I did find the girls on those sites to be much more shallow than those on eHarmony.

I am not sure how large a pool of candidates you expect a matchmaking service to have but they are not going to go and look outside their members to find you your perfect match. Of course if high on your list is a guy with lots of money then maybe a matchmaking service is the place for you to look.

As for your lack of success in even getting dates on eHarmony, once again we have only complaints without any knowledge whatsoever of you. But in the same time that you have been on eHarmony my experience has been vastly different. I actually get dates. I may not have found "the one" yet. At least with eHarmony I still have enough money left after paying for their service to afford to take someone out.
- November 2nd, 2009, 07:44 am
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I would proceed cautiously about these matchmaking services.

I went to in interview with one because I didn't know what i was getting into. They want EVERYTHING about you. They do credit checks, they do background checks, the whole shebang. They have this matrix that they use which i suspect is no better than Eharmony's profile matching. They give you a battery of tests just like EH did.

Then finally, they got to the membership tiers. The lowest membership tier costed $3,000.00 4 years ago. What did that entail? 6 introductions...per year. Thats, right, $3,000.00 a year and you have to pay that up front! They gave no guarantees on if these women will even go out with you, much less talk to you. And you thought EH was expensive. Their memberships go even higher to the point where they actually have professional shoppers and such to ensure you get a date, and get married. From what i hear, those go around 10 - 15K a year.

If you have the money to burn and really want to meet someone special, have at it. But there was ONE thing that stood out during the interview that really churned my stomach. During my interview, the interviewer said something along the lines of "oh, we won't match you up with some waitress or anything like that". I was immediately offended and realize that this service was very class biased. I got the impression that if you couldn't afford their services, you were nobody and not worth mentioning.

My impression is that if you and your date spend that much money to find each other, you maybe seeing more than whats really there because of how much investment you've put into it.
- November 2nd, 2009, 09:34 am
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Dafearon-You make a good point...I would probably really evaluate each and every date and think there is more there than there really is, mainly based on how much money I spent to get the date! That's not a good thing. And no, I dont have that type of money to spend on a matchmaking service and wasn't aware they were THAT expensive. That's crazy!

Gr8Guy-Hmm I'm not sure why my experience with EH hasn't been as good as yours. Could it be that I am in my mid 30's and perhaps the pool of available men is less? I'm sure that has a lot to do with it. In addition, I won't date a man with children (tried it twice and wasn't for me) so this definitely makes the pool even smaller. Well, I guess this is why I continue to renew my membership, because others seem to have success with it so I'm remaining optimistic.
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Could it be that I am in my mid 30's and perhaps the pool of available men is less? I'm sure that has a lot to do with it. In addition, I won't date a man with children (tried it twice and wasn't for me) so this definitely makes the pool even smaller. Well, I guess this is why I continue to renew my membership, because others seem to have success with it so I'm remaining optimistic.
Just keep plugging away. There are men out there, yes even some of us in our 30s without kids.

It's just a matter of being patient. I just don't see how a matchmaking service can offer you much better results than eH on a dollar for dollar basis.

There seems to be an element of luck in both processes. I favour eH, just because you have far more numbers to deal with.
- November 2nd, 2009, 11:19 am
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