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jayjay wrote :
There are great women in every age group.
Awwww! You earn extra brownie points! LOL

And, yes there are, no matter what the birthday, there are great women and men in EVERY age group!!! Hear hear!!
- November 1st, 2009, 02:42 pm
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melman wrote :
How would you feel about a man who said he was 5' 10" but turned out to be 5' 3"?
That would disappoint me. Hence, I do not lie about my age, or anything else! Never have, never will! Although, I'm a bit of an anomaly... ha ha ha The exception, not the rule.
- November 1st, 2009, 02:45 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Playing Machiavellian carp with men is asking for defeat.
Because men are better at Machiavellian carp than women? Hmmm?

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Although I do agree that lying about your age is stupid (cross reference here your post on the 'virgin' thread. Mid 20s? Then? or now?)
- November 1st, 2009, 02:46 pm
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melman wrote :
How would you feel about a man who said he was 5' 10" but turned out to be 5' 3"?

A person can look and act different from their age. They can not look and act a different height.
- November 1st, 2009, 04:28 pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
Because men are better at Machiavellian carp than women? Hmmm?

That wasn't quite the intent ...

Which is, that women often like to make elaborate screens for emotional readiness to meet, which forces men into a waiting game to begin the process of deciding if they are willing to commence the "getting to know you" stage - which actually begins after meeting.

Thus, once meeting, they are vulnerable.
- November 1st, 2009, 04:33 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
A person can look and act different from their age. They can not look and act a different height.
Well said!!... I knew I loved Froggy for a reason! LOL
- November 1st, 2009, 04:35 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
A person can look and act different from their age. They can not look and act a different height.
That's not the point. A lie is a lie, and eventually all lies are discovered.

Among family or friends or in a relationship, I can tolerate the occasional lie if the intent was good (avoiding hurt feelings, or protecting someone's reputation). But in e-dating, lying about your age is just plain deception, and that's unacceptable.

IRL, I have dated women that have turned out to be several years younger/older than what I had guessed. And it wasn't a big issue because I had not asked their age up front. In eH you are asked for basic facts about yourself and I expect the answers to be correct.

What lies are you willing to tolerate?
- November 1st, 2009, 04:42 pm
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Good lord... we're all vulnerable... My motto is this.... let your personality speak for itself! That can't and won't happen unless you actually meet in person.

You might judge my age, but, if you actually met me in person, you'd be addicted HA HA HA! I just choose to see myself as a catch, for any man. If he doesn't see me that way, then it is his loss not mine.

Whether it's dating or online dating, it's all about attitude! I know what I bring to the table.
- November 1st, 2009, 04:44 pm
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Annnnne wrote :
Men, what would you do if you met a beautiful, smart, funny, established woman and found out later that she took 5 years off of her age on her profile? Also, men who are in their late 30s early 40s, would you pass over someone who was 38 if you still wanted to have kids?
To get back to the OP's question, the answers to the above are "I'd drop her like a hot rock" and "No". Having kids at that age is more risky and you may have to look at adoption or other options, but if the relationship was solid, anything is possible.
- November 1st, 2009, 04:46 pm
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melman wrote :
That's not the point. A lie is a lie, and eventually all lies are discovered.

Among family or friends or in a relationship, I can tolerate the occasional lie if the intent was good (avoiding hurt feelings, or protecting someone's reputation). But in e-dating, lying about your age is just plain deception, and that's unacceptable.

IRL, I have dated women that have turned out to be several years younger/older than what I had guessed. And it wasn't a big issue because I had not asked their age up front. In eH you are asked for basic facts about yourself and I expect the answers to be correct.

What lies are you willing to tolerate?
Very seldom have I agreed with your posts Melman, but I completely agree with you here!

If one can't be honest about age, what else will the person be dishonest about?!
- November 1st, 2009, 04:47 pm
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