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Here's some unlovely cold truth for ya; I'm 55 and I think that I probably look close enough to it for anyone to figure out. So I date men my age and older because I like to feel beautiful and sensual and desired and that is hard to feel when I'm with a younger guy. All I'm thinking about is, Is he looking at that horrid wrinkle? or, Is he just noticing the brown spot on my hand that I think of as a chocolate kiss but he will know is an age spot? or, Is he checking my hair for gray? etc...... Guys my age and older that want to date women my age know what women this age look like and because of that they seem more real and full of life and knowledge to me. They bring out my very best - in all areas!!
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Here's some unlovely cold truth for ya; I'm 55 and I think that I probably look close enough to it for anyone to figure out. So I date men my age and older because I like to feel beautiful and sensual and desired and that is hard to feel when I'm with a younger guy. All I'm thinking about is, Is he looking at that horrid wrinkle? or, Is he just noticing the brown spot on my hand that I think of as a chocolate kiss but he will know is an age spot? or, Is he checking my hair for gray? etc...... Guys my age and older that want to date women my age know what women this age look like and because of that they seem more real and full of life and knowledge to me. They bring out my very best - in all areas!!
Ooh, yeah. I have to agree with you on this one.

When a really young guy flirts with me, I feel like telling him, "Sure, I look fine all dressed up, but the minute the dainties hit the floor, so will your jaw." Things are lower, lumpier and somehow paler than they appear when I'm dressed.

It's somewhat like unwrapping a birthday present and finding socks.
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Why exactly are we trying to comfort the frog? I don't know. He's the one in a relationship not me. huh! Why the bitter-pill attitude? You're right Trix, he should be so lucky!

I'm 35, and prefer men my age or a few years older. My age range is set from 30 to 49 I think, but I don't really want the 30 year old. It mostly has to do with my preference to giving snotty "Ha Ha You're so old" birthday cards to receiving them. (What can I say, I'm a giving kinda gal.) I make somewhere between piddling and diddly-squat as proscribed by the Pennsylvania state mandate that they would rather invest in gambling casinos than libraries. I would hope for the sake of the ego of my matches that they make more than I, but as I prefer a middle-class lifestyle I prefer they didn't make much more. (I think that would still be considered middle class. Haven't checked lately to see if I'm considered above the poverty line.) I look at a Mc-mansion and I think "How the he11 do they dust that ridiculous chandelier." Who wants a house with an echo anyway?
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chawks64 wrote :
..."Sure, I look fine all drssed up, but the minute the dainties hit the floor, so will your jaw." Things are lower, lumpier and somehow paler than they appear when I'm dressed.

It's somewhat like unwrapping a birthday present and finding socks.
LMAO... I love you're humor! Not that I would, but, at least us women can fix the lower aspect. Is there a surgery to fix a man as he gets "lower"

So will your jaw!!! Bah ha ha ha ha ha.

You are my idols!!!
*hugs Chawks and E*
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I only specify that my matches make as much as I do.

Yep.

Nice post. Sounded very honest.
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Yep.

Nice post. Sounded very honest.
So, did you consider it a nice post strictly based on the last line? LOL
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No, I thought the whole post was forthright.

I am frustrated to keep seeing women's profiles demanding his income be higher than hers.

(Combined with affirmative action and the customary demand that he subsidize her dating, this is infuriating.)
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No, I thought the whole post was forthright.
I agree. Nicely stated, allisag.

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I am frustrated to keep seeing women's profiles demanding his income be higher than hers.
True, that's not exactly the height of romance. Definitely misplaced priorities on women like that.

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(Combined with affirmative action and the customary demand that he subsidize her dating, this is infuriating.)
Now why'd you have to go and say that! I was in full agreement, until you forgot that I'm actually NOT getting promotions (and therefore increased ability to pay) just because I'm a woman (it's been said to my face 3 times... so far), and I STILL offer to split the bill on every first date and INSIST on either paying for dinner or buying the groceries and cooking on dates after that.

Can I get some of this "subsidy" I keep hearing about? 44 years later and I haven't gotten a dime of it.
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I agree. Nicely stated, allisag.



True, that's not exactly the height of romance. Definitely misplaced priorities on women like that.



Now why'd you have to go and say that! I was in full agreement, until you forgot that I'm actually NOT getting promotions (and therefore increased ability to pay) just because I'm a woman (it's been said to my face 3 times... so far), and I STILL offer to split the bill on every first date and INSIST on either paying for dinner or buying the groceries and cooking on dates after that.

Can I get some of this "subsidy" I keep hearing about? 44 years later and I haven't gotten a dime of it.
I believe that statement to be totally honest, and ok! Where I live, most women focus their concerns with what a man drives and what his profession is. To each their own! All I know is this, they make me look like an absolute gem!! Strictly because, that is NOT my focus.

Every man I have gone on a date with has made a comment about my unusual attitude. I offer to pay, I don't ask about career, car or assests and they tell me, "Wow, you're a breath of fresh air around here!" I'm always asked, "Where are you from?" because most women are about a man's assests, and that is the her entire focus. Utterly sad, but, that makes my attitude and perspective all that much more appreciated!
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I believe that statement to be totally honest, and ok! Where I live, most women focus their concerns with what a man drives and what his profession is. To each their own! All I know is this, they make me look like an absolute gem!! Strictly because, that is NOT my focus.

Every man I have gone on a date with has made a comment about my unusual attitude. I offer to pay, I don't ask about career, car or assests and they tell me, "Wow, you're a breath of fresh air around here!" I'm always asked, "Where are you from?" because most women are about a man's assests, and that is the her entire focus. Utterly sad, but, that makes my attitude and perspective all that much more appreciated!
I get the same thing. I'm in Vegas, where money and silicone talk, and I've been told a few times that my attitude was "refreshing". Are we really that odd?
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