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I also had a friend who touted herself as a virgin... She had done EVERYTHING else with her SO/boyfriend EXCEPT vag intercourse. Does that make her a virgin? Technically, yes. Yet, others would disagree.
Maybe medically yes, morally no.
- November 2nd, 2009, 08:00 am
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I am thinking that any girl that I am going to be dating is not going to be a virgin. But then life is filled with unexpected things.
- November 2nd, 2009, 08:02 am
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After you're about 30, though, it's a moot question. Only the rarest of rares is still a virgin, and the emotional attachment to sex is not as profound.

You become attached for reasons having nothing at all to do with sex.


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Are you saying that women older than about 30 are loose women
- November 2nd, 2009, 08:05 am
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The "responsibility" here is that you've done something that someone else hasn't. It has the potential to be ground breaking and you don't know how much the other person values this. If they value their virginity, and they lose it in a heat of passion and then regret it, you're the one with the experience. There is a huge unknown here and that unknown can be daunting to some.

I dated a virgin once who was over 30. She just never dated much, so obviously sex didn't come easily because of that. She was very scared of messing up. My "responsibility" i felt in this relationship was to make sure she saw things clearly and not let it get away from her. She had never experienced sex and the road leading to it, so it would have been very easy for her to get swayed by the moment. I felt that since i've been down this road a couple of times, I had the obligation to make sure her head was clear before proceeding and not let her get ahead of herself and regret it later. I felt this responsibility because I had the experience here and had to lead, but I didn't want to inadvertently lead her where I wanted to go, instead of where WE wanted to go.
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I've often heard of the requirement for virgins as sacrificial instruments or ingredients in spells ... but Halloween is over, so perhaps next year?
- November 2nd, 2009, 09:57 am
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ThePriestess wrote :
I've often heard of the requirement for virgins as sacrificial instruments or ingredients in spells ... but Halloween is over, so perhaps next year?
I always feel great comfort in the fact I can't be sacrificed to appease the rain gods or whatever.
- November 2nd, 2009, 10:05 am
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I always feel great comfort in the fact I can't be sacrificed to appease the rain gods or whatever.
Someone forgot to sacrifice to appease the rain gods because it rained so often this month when it usually doesn't. Felt like my Halloween season was tainted this year.
- November 2nd, 2009, 11:56 am
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ThePriestess wrote :
I've often heard of the requirement for virgins as sacrificial instruments or ingredients in spells ... but Halloween is over, so perhaps next year?
Well....none of those spells worked, so what does that mean? lol
- November 2nd, 2009, 11:58 am
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Someone forgot to sacrifice to appease the rain gods because it rained so often this month when it usually doesn't. Felt like my Halloween season was tainted this year.
what, you blaming me?
- November 2nd, 2009, 12:15 pm
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My girlfriend and I are Christians. Though I am not sure about the origins and values placed on certain established rules in the church particularly around sex. It is very important to her that we wait untill mariage before intercourse. I love her and so if it is important to her it is important to me. I have a responsibility to honor her and restrain my desires and hers as well at her request. I find no shame in this and look forward to what I hope is a great life togeather if we get to that point.

We have both waited a long time who cares if we wait for a little while longer?

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- November 2nd, 2009, 12:21 pm
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