Dating a virgin ~ the holy grail of dating or a burdonsome responsibility? Discuss.


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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #21  November 1,2009, 8:34pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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[quote=6dle899;784179]I was in a relationship with a woman for a few months this year, (met on EH btw) that told me, (that at age 51 with 3 adult children!!!) with bright shiny eyes she was a BORN-AGAIN virgin.

And holding out for "the rock":

To this, I countered with TWO things:

1. This "gift" is usually of more value to the "GIVER" than to the "GIFTED".


2. In a relationship that is serious (this one was becoming that) a couple should be compatible in ALL. respects, and to me personally, SEX is not the LEAST important of these.



She remain unmoved.


Soon thereafter, I called it quits and moved on.


I wish her good luck;
 
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[quote=6dle899;784179]I was in a relationship with a woman for a few months this year, (met on EH btw) that told me, (that at age 51 with 3 adult children!!!) with bright shiny eyes she was a BORN-AGAIN virgin.

And holding out for "the rock":

To this, I countered with TWO things:

1. This "gift" is usually of more value to the "GIVER" than to the "GIFTED".


2. In a relationship that is serious (this one was becoming that) a couple should be compatible in ALL. respects, and to me personally, SEX is not the LEAST important of these.



She remain unmoved.


Soon thereafter, I called it quits and moved on.


I wish her good luck;
 
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Faira is offline Faira Post #23  November 1,2009, 9:18pm
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jayjay wrote :
What the heck is 'the rock'? God? An engagement ring? The wrestler Dwayne Johnson? All 3?
Now, all 3 *would* be a zeitgeist!

Do you think she'll be waiting long?
 
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Faira is offline Faira Post #24  November 1,2009, 9:21pm
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I think that virginity is only as important as you make it. If it's a big deal to you that you're a virgin (or that your partner is a virgin)...then it's going to be a big deal in the relationship.

That goes for a lot of things...
 
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nightling wrote :
Some guy in another thread claimed taking a virgin was the holy grail for some young men. So the reasons for that were the whole impetus behind starting the thread froggy. ;p~
I mentioned that in the other thread as a follow-up to some other posts. Some young men just like scoring virgins, this isn't a new development. Just ask the woman that auctioned off her virginity for a million dollars but received a bid for over 3 million. Crazy I know.

review for context
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...tml#post783930 (is he using me or does he like me?)
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trixie1868 wrote :
... so rather than hijack it we're doing this.
But that's half the fun ...
 
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neither. dating a virgin is like playing russian roulette.
 
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saulgoode is offline saulgoode Post #28  November 2,2009, 5:18am
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Scene from "The Virginator.":

"I'll be back..."

Of course, we know he's lying.

...

Never bothered me. My first was her first. My second was her first. In between those two, I dated a girl who was a virgin, and she wanted to lose it with me, but I didn't feel it was the right time.

Before I got married, I attached a pretty high value to the act of sex. I'd only been with five women, I think (?), and they were all long-term, or at least had some emotional attachment, and I married one of them.

After you're about 30, though, it's a moot question. Only the rarest of rares is still a virgin, and the emotional attachment to sex is not as profound.

You become attached for reasons having nothing at all to do with sex.


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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #29  November 2,2009, 5:47am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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jayjay wrote :
What the heck is 'the rock'? God? An engagement ring? The wrestler Dwayne Johnson? All 3?

Oh no. I am a pervert. It's official.

I was thinking she was waiting on a shipment of viagra.

Gotta have the right tools for the job kinda thing.
 
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j0hn8andy is offline j0hn8andy Post #30  November 2,2009, 6:54am
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Where the Heck is my other Post?
Still in Moderation Land?

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