Dating a virgin ~ the holy grail of dating or a burdonsome responsibility? Discuss.


Reply
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
CapnCrunch23 is offline CapnCrunch23 Post #141  November 2,2009, 9:23pm

Unregistered

Joined: Sep 2009

Posts: 1,410

See profile

nightling wrote :
Well since all the guys have wussed out on offering us an explanation as to why taking a girl's virginity is such a prize, I will hazard a guess that you all know the reasons for it being some kind of holy grail that you can brag about are just plain shameful.

It's treating the girl like a prize to be won, not a person with feelings who is likely going to be heartbroken to find out she was just a notch on the bedpost.
I don't believe the men are being wussies here. I just don't think the men you're looking for to answer this are here! (they are all out having s-e-x with virgins)

I never considered it to be the holy grail nor a prize. I've only been with one virgin and I was a virgin myself. Did I brag about it..absoulutley not! I was 14 and had no clue what the heck I was doing. I was more nervous I did something wrong. Sure I told all my friends I wasn't a virgin anymore, but that was about me not the girl.
Last edited by CaptCrunch23; November 2,2009 at 9:25pm. Reason: The holy grail only belongs in Indiana Jones movies!
 
  Reply With Quote
SierraMountainAir is offline SierraMountainAir Post #142  November 2,2009, 9:25pm
SierraMountai…'s Avatar

The Doctor just called. Your test results are in.

Power Poster

Joined: Apr 2008

California, but NORTHERN California

Posts: 6,025

See profile

littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
Men who have no valid reason to seek out a virgin but view them as scores or prizes are the freakshow. People who hold one standard for men and another for women are the freakshow.
I think you have painted with such a broad brush here, that you have in fact condemned the religion of Islam, as it is practiced, WRT to this, with this remark.

You *DO* understand that, don't you?
 
  Reply With Quote
SierraMountainAir is offline SierraMountainAir Post #143  November 2,2009, 9:31pm
SierraMountai…'s Avatar

The Doctor just called. Your test results are in.

Power Poster

Joined: Apr 2008

California, but NORTHERN California

Posts: 6,025

See profile

lindseyk wrote :
Gosh, as a 29-year old virgin I'm beginning to feel like a bit of a freakshow reading some of the posts here. Good thing my fiance loves me and values my decision to wait for sex until marriage! lol Innocent and naive are not the same thing, as he often tells me. If anyone thinks that virgins don't understand sexual frustration, etc, they should just come talk to me. I get it. Waiting is hard. It's even more difficult when you actually have someone to wait for. But to me, it's worth it, freakshowiness notwithstanding.
I do not feel that way about what you said, I think it is good that you have your values and morals and abide by them...


My parents also, were both totally innocent when at 29, they married and it was the first time for both.

They had a storybook marriage (as I hope you will also!) that lasted 64 long years, and so loved one another, that when the first died, the second died too, TEN days later -- of a broken heart, I am sure.


I tried to follow that model, and did so until I was almost 27, and then it turned to ashes, with NOBODY on the horizon.


I very much envy you and your beloved and wish the both of you well.

It's my belief that life will be very very good for you.
 
  Reply With Quote
peg099 is offline peg099 Post #144  November 2,2009, 9:32pm
peg099's Avatar

Sage

Joined: Sep 2008

Canada

Posts: 12,516

See profile

ThePriestess wrote :
Limousine is the adjective, eyelash is the noun. What comes to mind?
I'd like a verb.
 
  Reply With Quote
Jacquesne is offline Jacquesne Post #145  November 2,2009, 9:47pm
Jacquesne's Avatar

knows the answer...42

Veteran

Joined: May 2008

Reno, NV

Posts: 1,357

See profile

I don't know about other discussions as they A) weren't linked and B) the OP discussion was "If you knew you were dating a virgin would it please you or trouble you?" That leaves both men who prefer virgins and those who do not on the table and doesn't even say men looking for female virgins. As far as I could tell this was an open discussion for all genders and perspectives. Sorry if I didn't come in with the knowledge that guys prefer virgins (as I don't so obviously there's something wrong with me) =)

Unfortunately my post on the patriarchy never came up because it was pretty good. Oh well. I did address neardc's point but I suppose you'll have to take my word for it =).

And to ThePriestess...roflmao u nub, diaf.

And to my own posts...TLDR.

Amirite?

Jacquesne
 
  Reply With Quote
j0hn8andy is offline j0hn8andy Post #146  November 2,2009, 9:48pm
j0hn8andy's Avatar

.....yes, she.....Sweeps past softly, without a sigh.....

Virtuoso

Joined: Jun 2009

California

Posts: 4,848

See profile

littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
What if you get them both?
Oooooohhhh!!! Now you're scaring me!

j8a
 
  Reply With Quote
SierraMountainAir is offline SierraMountainAir Post #147  November 2,2009, 9:53pm
SierraMountai…'s Avatar

The Doctor just called. Your test results are in.

Power Poster

Joined: Apr 2008

California, but NORTHERN California

Posts: 6,025

See profile

scarlet13 wrote :
I'm not promiscuous. ask everyone to marry me first.
Good grief.


mua hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
 
  Reply With Quote
ThePriestess is offline ThePriestess Post #148  November 2,2009, 10:22pm
ThePriestess's Avatar

It's a glow-in-the-dark compass ring, so you don't get lost.

Sage

Joined: Apr 2008

Canadian POW held in Florida

Posts: 15,919

See profile

peg099 wrote :
I'd like a verb.
Spank!
 
  Reply With Quote
Oregon_Coast_Guy is offline Oregon_Coast_Guy Post #149  November 2,2009, 10:23pm
Oregon_Coast_…'s Avatar

Out by the dawn's early light, my love, I will defend your right to try.

Veteran

Joined: Sep 2008

OR

Posts: 2,392

See profile

melman wrote :
Let me get my popcorn, this will certainly be interesting.

OK, please elaborate. And please use as many over-generalizations as possible.

Explanation: Virgin men aren't practiced in the various "techniques" necessary to please a sexually versed woman.

Once you've driven a Lexus, you don't go back to driving a Ford...
 
  Reply With Quote
ThePriestess is offline ThePriestess Post #150  November 2,2009, 11:23pm
ThePriestess's Avatar

It's a glow-in-the-dark compass ring, so you don't get lost.

Sage

Joined: Apr 2008

Canadian POW held in Florida

Posts: 15,919

See profile

Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
Once you've driven a Lexus, you don't go back to driving a Ford...
You're erroneously equating quantity with quality.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« a canceled date and no explanation | Dating | Craigs List 'missed connection' posting »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“It's important to understand the way a site works. Rigidly assuming / insisting that eH works likes all the others you're used to isn't utilizing the site functions to your best advantage. No.... ... ” –  Wiseman2

Join the “First contact on eHarmony, smile, questions, email?” discussion

“ If you have yet to meet, you don't know him or whether you two will form a connection. Connections formed over e-mail tend to be fantasies. You will see this echoed over and over by experienced ... ” –  shapeShifter79

Join the “How do i recoonect with him again?” discussion

“ Then it's a bit premature to worry about being friend-zoned. The first step is to go out on dates! What specific steps did you try? How many women did you ask out in person? Did you buy a ... ” –  shapeShifter79

Join the “For women to answer: How to avoid the friend zone” discussion

“ This is an old thread. She asked this in 2010. By now they are likely very exclusive or very over. ” –  shapeShifter79

Join the “is there a reason to ask if we're exclusive?” discussion

“ I'm sure he wouldn't get that. And I can't be sure that was the actual message. But it sems kind of likely to me.” –  boomer_gal

Join the “Why am I not successful?” discussion

“Hi eccemuliere and welcome to eHA.On an internet forum like eHA, you're going to get a wide variety of responses; some you'll like and some you won't. It's best to focus on the ones that speak to ... ” –  Sassafras54

Join the “Being blown off, or something else?” discussion

“ Although I have ignored my gut at times, in hindsight it's always been right, in terms of recognizing bad choices. QUOTE] But once we realize our past mistakes, we can use our reason to clue us ... ” –  eccemuliere

Join the “Is Your Gut Leading - or Misleading You?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 11:24am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0