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Lie in an attempt to deceive. That's what happened. You haven't even met yet and there is embarrassment about the past? This isn't something that will get better. Find someone that isn't ashamed of their past.

Look at all the divorce topics and discussions on these boards. It's staggering how many people enter into marriages based on poor choices with the expectation that they can just get another one if it doesn't work out.

There are worse things than not being married. I'm sure all the fatherless and motherless children out there agree.
- November 12th, 2009, 12:05 pm
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Yeah. This guy knew what you meant.
Do you really believe he had no idea you meant 'married' as in 'wedded' as in 'are you available to be seen in public with another woman not your wife'?

The splitting hairs and qualification are a concern. That's a trait of a skilled liar/deniar. Would I date a person who pretends not to know that he is being asked a plain question? Let's imagine this another way:

You: Do you have AIDS?
Him: No.

(meanwhile he is HIV+)

Im over this guy already. Life is too short.




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This is a good post.

I agree that it is readily possible to be emotionally-distant from a situation, such as this man and his wife.

I would call this a case of (likely) understanding your question, and (still) not replying with the data you're obviously seeking, making this a lie.

That said, if you want a specific answer, it helps to ask a specific question.

This would concern me, perhaps enough not to meet the person. But, if you can keep calm and dispassionate about him enough to gather other data, and have not other possible partners at the moment, it may be worth the time.
- November 12th, 2009, 05:51 pm
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I personally don't like it.. If I want to date "unmarried" people I don't want to find out later that they are "divorced" and have baggage from a previous relationship. I also strikes the character of the person if you say your "unmarried" when actually your "divorced". I am an unmarried guy and I don't want people matched up with me who lie.. I have had it happen to me personally.. The dating that person was over after date #1.
- November 13th, 2009, 07:19 am
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