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start a conversation with you? I am thinking about not spending any more money on this online dating thing and you know trying a real life approach but I am shy not the extroverted type so... guys if I saw you at they gym or grocery store or dog park what could I say? How could I start a conversation or let you know I'm interested in getting to know you?
- May 11th, 2008, 08:57 pm
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- May 11th, 2008, 09:32 pm
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Just smile and say hello; that should be enough in most situations. At the gym, you could ask how a machine/exercise works or if he's tried a certain yoga, kickboxing class, etc. At the dog park, pet his dog.

If the convo is good and you're giving off good body language...I would ask you out.



- May 11th, 2008, 09:56 pm
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sqg123, wrote :
start a conversation with you? I am thinking about not spending any more money on this online dating thing and you know trying a real life approach but I am shy not the extroverted type so... guys if I saw you at they gym or grocery store or dog park what could I say? How could I start a conversation or let you know I'm interested in getting to know you?
How about "hi?"

I mean, we're guys. We're not used to being approached that much, since almost all women expect us to make the opening line.

Even if you're awkward about it, don't worry about it. We'll understand, and we like being hit on.

- May 11th, 2008, 10:39 pm
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I would love if a woman would approach me to start a conversation. I just found out that a company moving in on the floor below us has about 300 out of 350 women as employees. so it could get interesting in the gym for our building. I am ready to answer all their questions about the area like where's the Starbucks, good places to eat, bars etc etc.

I have also discovered that the grocery store on sundays during football season is a great time to shop. my team is out of state so during the local teams games and my team is not on tv if i go the ratio of women to men are about 80/20! knock some cans over in my aisle and i will come to help pick them up and talk!



- May 11th, 2008, 11:28 pm
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If you feel uncomfortable just saying "Hi" for no reason, why not ask a question? As long as you turn it into a conversation, it should work out. Don't take this the wrong way, but it's pretty much the same "technique" many guys use in bars and such...use a question to start a conversation on the subject.

Honestly, there are few guys who are going to give a negative response, if any. Not only is it flattering, frankly most guys aren't used to it, so we don't have the "threat" response that women tend to have when randomly approached by men. If a girl came up and asked me about working out in the gym, a subject I enjoy (and most guys in a gym are interested in it, of course), I'm probably going to talk her ear off =). I would totally be into a girl interested in exercise and taking care of herself, not just because I do the same, but also because it's sadly relatively rare. Less soap operas, more tennis please! =)

Start off general, then ask them how they got into working out. Everyone has their own reasons, and you'll tend to start getting into their health, maybe their job, whatever. He'll probably start reciprocating the conversation fast, trying to find out more about YOU, if out of habit for no other reason.

Don't make it too obvious you're hitting on him in a creepy way, more of a "I'd like to know you better" way. You'll be fine!

The hardest part is getting over the initial start. I'll tell you what I've told guy friends of mine; practice! Don't think of each one as your "big chance." Go up, start a conversation with a guy, and try on another later, regardless. You might get a date, you might get a short conversation that doesn't go anywhere, but at the very least you'll get more used to and comfortable doing it. The more comfortable you look when talking to him, the more comfortable he'll be.

The funny part is if you don't approach each one like it's a big deal, it usually ends up going better, feeling more natural, and is less stress for both of you. It's not like you're going up to ask him out, you're just going up to say "Hi!" and find out a bit about him.

Good luck! Not many women would even consider attempting this. I predict you'll be very successful, but don't forget to be discerning! Hold to your standards and boundaries regardless of how it turns out, and you'll do great =).
- May 11th, 2008, 11:31 pm
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aguyspoint wrote :

we like being hit on.
yes we do!
- May 12th, 2008, 10:57 am
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I agree with those who say "just say Hi". If he's attracted to you then he'll welcome the opportunity to talk with you.

To be honest, if I'm attracted to you then I've probably already noticed you and may have already wondered how to start a conversation with you. If you say "hi" first that just makes it all that much easier.

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- May 12th, 2008, 11:08 am
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Actually, this all reminds me of one of my all time best unintentional pickup lines.

A girl was working out on the leg extensions machine and she was doing exactly what I do, which is work each leg separately. It provides better stability among other things. She seemed to be doing each leg to exhaustion too, which is pretty intense - but takes a while.

So for those unfamiliar with weightlifting protocol, it's kosher to go up to someone in those circumstances and ask "How much more you got?" since it's considered polite to let someone break in if you're going to be monopolizing a machine for a while.

I did so, and she said, "Oh, I've got another 3 sets on this leg and 2 on the one that I just did."

My response, "Mind if I get in there between your legs?"

She started laughing and I realized exactly what I'd said.
- May 12th, 2008, 02:55 pm
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Honestly, I *HATE* it when women try to start a conversation with a question they probably already know the answer to. I much prefer it when a woman comes up and just says something like, "Hi, how are you? Come here often?" or asks me if I'm enjoying myself.. whatever. Something honest. Smiles always tend to melt me. See? There's nothing really hard to it.

As to picking up guys at the gym.. I'm not sure how great of an approach that is. I know some people have had luck with it, but I'm usually pretty focused when I'm working out. If your gym has a lounge/health bar attached (my old one did), that works as a great place to meet people, though.
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