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Benevolence32 is offline Benevolence32 Post #11  November 1,2009, 8:15am
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The other guys are correct, you're considered the holy grail of women so it's extremely possible he only wants one thing from you. Trust us older guys on this subject, we know our own gender. He doesn't want you hanging out with other guys because he wants to be your first. I would proceed very slowly.

My gut tells me with the info you've given you'd just be one of his favorite notches on his bedpost to brag to his buddies about. The burden is on him to prove otherwise in this case.
 
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Don't jump to the conclusion that he's using you because he suggested dating. He wouldn't bring up dating unless he likes you. Go on a few dates with him and find out what his "real intentions" are. If you don't like his "real intentions" you can always tell him you're not interested in dating anymore.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #13  November 1,2009, 8:55am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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OP: from what you wrote this sounds like a guy who doesn't have trouble asking women out. If that's the case and he's still coyly dancing around simply asking you out....it doesn't sound good to me. If a man likes you....he'll make it happen. When he talks about 'dating' you...this could just be code for having sex.
 
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gothustartus wrote :
I don't know the bloke so i couldn't really say what his intentions are, i guess it all comes down to whether or not he is sleeping with other women, you don't know for sure but you're assuming he is. If you knew for a fact that he was sleeping around and still chasing you then it would be hard to see that as anything other than trying to add you to the list, a double sized bedpost notch for a virgin.
The only way you're going to know what's going on is if you ask him and he's honest enough to tell the truth. No matter what he says you might not believe him anyway, it depends on how much you trust him.
I really liked this post. And I do think the only way you are going to know is if you ask him.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #15  November 1,2009, 9:49am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Virgin = holy grail of women.

Really? Why?

Think I'd regard it as a burdonsome responsibility but would genuinely like to know what men think.
 
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I would have thought being a virgin is a turnoff for someone who has sex on a regular basis.
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
Virgin = holy grail of women.

Really? Why?

Think I'd regard it as a burdonsome responsibility but would genuinely like to know what men think.
I'd love to answer that but I don't really want to hijack her thread and go off-topic.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #18  November 1,2009, 10:31am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Benevolence32 wrote :
I'd love to answer that but I don't really want to hijack her thread and go off-topic.
Shall we start another thread about it?
 
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start that other thread then because I am also curious about that.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #20  November 1,2009, 10:56am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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trixie1868 wrote :
Think I'd regard it as a burdonsome responsibility but would genuinely like to know what men think.
"With great power comes great responsibility".
 
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