Baggage.... let's talk about that a bit....


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chrysalis08 is offline chrysalis08 Post #1  October 31,2009, 12:52pm
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Thought this one deserved a thread all it's own, since it's sparking a lot of comments on another thread, and it's got potential for total destruction of a relationship.

Definition of baggage... would be curious what some might consider baggage as compared to others. My thoughts are in line with the thinking that any past experience or "debris" (or even witnessing past experiences of another) that impacts choices in the present is baggage... at a conscious or subconscious level. That subconscious recording of all learned behaviours that evolves through your life.... i.e. as a child the stove is hot and you burn your hand; you learn not to touch the burner the next time.... How can one get through life without these influences and state there is no baggage at any level...
Not to denigrate the claims of some that they have none. I know I have lots... can't say I know of anyone personally who doesn't. I kind of like figuring people out, and when they do something unusual or out of character I can't resist tracking back through my knowledge of them to try to figure out what drives them to respond in uncharacteristic ways... to get an understanding of them. It's interesting to consider that there are lots of compensatory reactions to things... for example if mom was a religious fanatic, the kids might be completely the opposite - even anti-religion. I would consider this baggage. If one is not aware of the impact mom had on their stance, then their response is not one of moderation, and "mom" and her issues become baggage. If however one realizes that "mom"had issues, and sees the potential for overreacting to "mom's" fanatacism, and then consciously monitors to ensure there is no over compensating in response to mom, then there would be less or no baggage from mom.

Ok, rambling, but baggage causes no end of trouble and I figured it would make a good new thread on a slow afternoon...
 
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There's a whole thread on baggage created by D_Lion around one week or so ago. It has 'too good to be true' in the title. Heaps of opinions there re baggage.
 
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meri75 wrote :
There's a whole thread on baggage created by D_Lion around one week or so ago. It has 'too good to be true' in the title. Heaps of opinions there re baggage.
Actually it's more like a whole thread on his baggage or lack of..
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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
Actually it's more like a whole thread on his baggage or lack of..
I did LOL! Agreed ... though possibly that was not the trek D may have been seeking!
 
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Ok, rambling, but baggage causes no end of trouble and I figured it would make a good new thread on a slow afternoon...

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D_Lion wrote :
If you want to be tickled, just say "I want to be tickled."
tickled... cute...


so what's the big secret???
 
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meri75 wrote :
I did LOL! Agreed ... though possibly that was not the trek D may have been seeking!
Yeah probably not the track that he was seeking, but he always brings good topics to the table for discussion.

sorry chrysalis..I will stop the hj of your thread
 
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baggage ... the something extra you deal with based on past experiences that in some way holds you back or predisposes you to react in a self-defeating manner.

Not to be confused with experiences which simply make us wiser and less likely to err.

Perhaps a shorter way to put it might be learned fears.

D, for example, has a learned fear of gold diggers.

I on the other hand have a learned fear of beer diggers.

Seriously though this was covered ad infinitum in the thread too good to be true and some other thread whose name I now forget.
 
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nightling wrote :
baggage ... the something extra you deal with based on past experiences that in some way holds you back or predisposes you to react in a self-defeating manner.

Not to be confused with experiences which simply make us wiser and less likely to err.

Perhaps a shorter way to put it might be learned fears.

D, for example, has a learned fear of gold diggers.

I on the other hand have a learned fear of beer diggers.

Seriously though this was covered ad infinitum in the thread too good to be true and some other thread whose name I now forget.
Excellent post.
 
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If I use your definition of "baggage" then anyone who has been born and is still alive would have more baggage than you could ever deal with.

However, since I and a great many other people have a different definition of baggage than yours. I still maintain that I have no baggage
 
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