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Georgetheman is offline Georgetheman Post #1  October 28,2009, 11:30am
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I had coffee with this girl and lunch with her the week after. The lunch date started well but dragged on a little too long in a VERY crowded little restaurant. It was a little awkward towards the end. I thought I screwed up. I left her a message later, something like "I know that was kind of awkward at the end there, but I would like to see you again" etc. I didn't hear back from her and didn't expect to.

So, I called her on Sunday after about ten days just for the heck of it. She said "I got your message--sorry, I was really busy" etc. I asked if she wanted to go out on Friday, and she said she would call me back because she didn't have her planner with her. I left her a message last night and still haven't heard from her.

I know she's really busy (and from talking to her, her brain is all over the place), so I want to be gracious. But I'm starting to wonder if she's playing games with me. What do you think?
 
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I had coffee with this girl and lunch with her the week after. The lunch date started well but dragged on a little too long in a VERY crowded little restaurant. It was a little awkward towards the end. I thought I screwed up. I left her a message later, something like "I know that was kind of awkward at the end there, but I would like to see you again" etc. I didn't hear back from her and didn't expect to.

So, I called her on Sunday after about ten days just for the heck of it. She said "I got your message--sorry, I was really busy" etc. I asked if she wanted to go out on Friday, and she said she would call me back because she didn't have her planner with her. I left her a message last night and still haven't heard from her.

I know she's really busy (and from talking to her, her brain is all over the place), so I want to be gracious. But I'm starting to wonder if she's playing games with me. What do you think?
I always feel like I shouldn't give advice cause I am just not like most women. I can tell you there isn't a soul on earth with a schedule crazier than me. Full time work and school + kids. I have a planner, keep it all on my computer and link to my phone. I could tell you in a second about Friday night. Take it for what you think it is worth.
 
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Georgetheman wrote :
I had coffee with this girl and lunch with her the week after. The lunch date started well but dragged on a little too long in a VERY crowded little restaurant. It was a little awkward towards the end. I thought I screwed up. I left her a message later, something like "I know that was kind of awkward at the end there, but I would like to see you again" etc. I didn't hear back from her and didn't expect to.

So, I called her on Sunday after about ten days just for the heck of it. She said "I got your message--sorry, I was really busy" etc. I asked if she wanted to go out on Friday, and she said she would call me back because she didn't have her planner with her. I left her a message last night and still haven't heard from her.

I know she's really busy (and from talking to her, her brain is all over the place), so I want to be gracious. But I'm starting to wonder if she's playing games with me. What do you think?
i don;t think she's playing games, but i don't think she's interested in you either- she just doesn't know how to say "i'm just not that into you"

sorry.
 
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Georgetheman is offline Georgetheman Post #4  October 28,2009, 11:50am
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i don;t think she's playing games, but i don't think she's interested in you either- she just doesn't know how to say "i'm just not that into you"

sorry.
She's a pretty direct communicator... I feel like she would say that, or else just ignore me. But it's possible. No frowny face needed... I can deal with it if that's the case.
 
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In my experience busy women will FIND/MAKE time for you if they are interested!
 
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She's a pretty direct communicator... I feel like she would say that, or else just ignore me. But it's possible. No frowny face needed... I can deal with it if that's the case.
Chalk this one up....pick ya self buckaroo and move on to the next one!

No calling her anymore at this point!
 
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In my experience busy women will FIND/MAKE time for you if they are interested!
Right, that's exactly what I've been thinking. She did find time for me twice (it was pretty difficult, we're college students), and we had to reschedule the lunch to a day later because she had a homework emergency. So she was at least interested at first.

Maybe she lost interest?
 
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Where there is a will there is a way. I don't think she's that interested.
 
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lol....I'm so busy is a convenient excuse or alternative to saying "I'm not that into you, but if all my other plans fall through, you'll do." Sorry but you need to move on.
 
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If she is really busy but wants to see you she will suggest another day. If you are up on her list of priorities, she will change her schedule if at all possible. Consider her just a passing fancy.
 
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