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I think we start by treating people like people. Unless your at a stage where you just do what you want and don't care about anyone. which is not a bad thing, just inform the person of your intension. That's what I did when I was (Wet & Wild)

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- October 31st, 2009, 10:49 pm
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Sex is saved until marraige period Case close! Grow up!
- October 31st, 2009, 11:10 pm
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Only if sex is the goal of the relationship rather than a benefit of it, and both parties aren't on the same page as to what it means.
Sex is an awkward subject, people don't talk about it enough to my mind, or at least they don't talk about it objectively enough because of social taboos or questions of morality, which is crazy since it has so many expectations bound up with it that inclusion or exclusion can't help but affect a budding relationship.
Personally i'm not going to shoehorn sex into a conversation, but it does have to come up eventually, and be settled to the satisfaction of both parties without either feeling that they have compromised something major in their values. If we can't agree on something that to me is so basic then we're building on unstable foundations and it will come back and kick us in the rear sooner or later.
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For me, there's no rush for sex. If the end goal truly is a relationship, then I'd be much more interested in getting to know a guy and getting the relationship going before I have sex with him. I'm not in a huge hurry when there's so much to learn. I find that, for me, sex will just add undue pressure if it happens too early. But when it finally does happen...

However, I realize that everyone is different; some people have very successful relationships doing things differently than I choose to; it's really a matter of what works best for you.
- November 1st, 2009, 09:37 am
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Lula11 wrote :
Now this is something I feel has endless explaniations.
But if somone is truely interested in another person, does having sex "too soon" ruin the chances of the relationship progressing into something more? It shouldnt matter right, or does it??
A tricky question, I believe.
If "too soon" means:
You are both not far enough along, or, haven't developed the relationship to have had really connected with each other on an emotionally mature level...then yes, I think it does.
Anyway...that's my definition of "too soon".

YMMV.
- November 1st, 2009, 10:11 am
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