For me waiting is the right thing. For me it's important to get to know the person. I was involved in a situation recently that really brought things home for me in this regard. I really liked this guy. We clicked in every way - or so I thought. We had a lot in common, etc., etc. So we went out for drinks/dinner a few times and he behaved as though he was interested in getting to know me on more than just a friendly level. We had actually known each other for a while before actually going out. The more we talked to the more it seemed like we had in common that could possibly lead to a great relationship.

Well way too soon he made a move on me that I really didn't see coming at that point in time. I will be honest - I was shocked that he went there at that time because it really was like it came out of nowhere based on our past interaction together. In fact this entire episode happened with our first kiss! I let him know that I wasn't ready - wanted to get to know him better. I wasn't angry - I just decided to move on from there and continue to try to get to know him and see where things went. He went poof!

So for me, I don't care what signals someone is sending or how much you think you "click" with someone...you never really know what someone's motives are. Had I had sex with this guy that night and he went poof (which in hindsight I believe he would have), I would have felt like a big fool. Now I am feeling pretty sure that all he really wanted was sex. My feelings wee hurt because before this episode we had a good relationship for over a year. Well at least I didn't have sex with him. I would have felt like a bigger fool.

Anyway that was the last I saw of him. This one is difficult too because even though we had just started going out together I've known this guy for over a year and I liked having him in my life.