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Now this is something I feel has endless explaniations.
But if somone is truely interested in another person, does having sex "too soon" ruin the chances of the relationship progressing into something more? It shouldnt matter right, or does it??

Ive heard many stories where if you sleep with a guy too fast, you pretty much have ruined your chances in anything more with them, but then again with some, it didnt make a difference.

From past experiences, I really cant say wether or not this is true. I guess it would depend on the person. Ive had where Ive taken things slow, they ended it because they thought I didnt like them alot becuase I hadn't slept with them, then theres been where I do early on in the "relationship" then later they still end it, becuase they dont want a relationship after all, even though at first they tell you they do. Then theres ones where it doesnt matter at all, you sleep with them and regardless still want something more from you...

So it all comes down to, does "waiting" really make a difference?
In a nutshell, yes.
- October 27th, 2009, 07:00 pm
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Mr_Right wrote :
In a nutshell, yes.

What do you find in a nutshell?
- October 27th, 2009, 07:03 pm
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What do you find in a nutshell?
Nothing. Blame the squirrels.
- October 27th, 2009, 07:12 pm
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From my so biased opinion... Sex does not change whether or not I wish to have a LTR.

If I don't want a relationship sex now means I might leave at the point I'm no longer interested. Sex later might mean I'll say or go depending upon how much effort I wish to invest.

If I want a relationship, sex now or latter doesn't change the fact that I still want a relationship.
- October 27th, 2009, 07:56 pm
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Sex in a nutshell, awesome. I admit I am not worldly but from my experience there is no difference in outcome. When I have forced the issue on waiting I have been offered the sun and the moon. After the act have always found a different man. Sometimes it ends it sometimes not. It just seems to me that the sun and the moon are just smoke and mirrors. So why not get to the meat of it. I have yet to meet a man that sex was anything less than wonderful so I am not the worse for wear.

You know this is probably a question only you can answer.
- October 27th, 2009, 08:18 pm
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jayjay wrote :
I think the difficulty is....the other stage is even more enjoyable.
Ya, but it only lasts half an hour or so
- October 27th, 2009, 08:19 pm
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Lula11 wrote :
Now this is something I feel has endless explaniations.
But if somone is truely interested in another person, does having sex "too soon" ruin the chances of the relationship progressing into something more? It shouldnt matter right, or does it??

Ive heard many stories where if you sleep with a guy too fast, you pretty much have ruined your chances in anything more with them, but then again with some, it didnt make a difference.

From past experiences, I really cant say wether or not this is true. I guess it would depend on the person. Ive had where Ive taken things slow, they ended it because they thought I didnt like them alot becuase I hadn't slept with them, then theres been where I do early on in the "relationship" then later they still end it, becuase they dont want a relationship after all, even though at first they tell you they do. Then theres ones where it doesnt matter at all, you sleep with them and regardless still want something more from you...

So it all comes down to, does "waiting" really make a difference?
"I guess it would depend on the person."
You answered your own question.
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Ya, but it only lasts half an hour or so
For you it might (that's all?)
Three words: kegel kegel kegel

IMHO sex is usually not what adds to a relationship
Making love (which includes lots of communication, both verbal and tactile) is what adds to a relationship. As intimacy can be one of the greatest forms of communication, I feel that there is no time standard.

Every person, every relationship is different.
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Ya, but it only lasts half an hour or so
How old are you?
- October 27th, 2009, 09:21 pm
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jayjay wrote :
I think the difficulty is....the other stage is even more enjoyable.
Ya, but it only lasts half an hour or so

Are you kidding me??
- October 27th, 2009, 09:35 pm
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[quote=olneyjeeps;780696]"I guess it would depend on the person."
You answered your own question.



That I did, but curious to others opinions, hence the post
- October 27th, 2009, 09:44 pm
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