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PY_2 wrote :
I think these same people would be the ones who would leave you once (or if) you gain the weight back.

Kinda like if I were to win the next Powerball, and suddenly people in the past contacted me (especially long lost friends, families, etc)...the emails would go straight to the trash can.
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- October 28th, 2009, 09:26 am
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I find the Phillies to be waaayyyy attractive!
Go Phillies!
- October 28th, 2009, 11:37 am
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- October 28th, 2009, 01:34 pm
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OP, Personally I wouldn't. The first rejection would prove too much of an obstacle for me to overcome. But not everyone holds a grudge for infinity like I do, lol.
- October 28th, 2009, 07:18 pm
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OMG... this is so my life. I've lost 121lbs so far and the guys seem to come running who weren't interested in me just because I was obese. But for me, I have to say that sometimes its better to leave those men in the past. Not because I can't empathize with what they said, but because its obvious I am not willing to be with someone who liked everything about me but my weight then ... You have to be with someone who accepts your faults as well.

That's why I say the past should stay the past.
- October 29th, 2009, 08:20 am
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1. Obesity is unattractive to almost everyone.
2. Its unwise to date someone who you are not attracted to.

These men are not shallow or mean.
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- October 29th, 2009, 08:48 am
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You know your #1 is not true. There are a lot of men I dated who were into bigger women. You are speaking from your own experience and opinion. Not everyone thinks the way that you do.

I agree with #2, but what people forget its not weight that makes someone unattractive. I dated some very attractive men only to get to know them and lets say their looks didn't help the situation.
- October 29th, 2009, 09:44 am
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smileatjen wrote :
You know your #1 is not true. There are a lot of men I dated who were into bigger women. You are speaking from your own experience and opinion. Not everyone thinks the way that you do.

I agree with #2, but what people forget its not weight that makes someone unattractive. I dated some very attractive men only to get to know them and lets say their looks didn't help the situation.
Almost everyone doesn't mean everyone. He's just stating the truth: most men find obesity very unattractive. An unhealthy excess of weight *does* make someone unattractive. As you pointed out, plenty of non-appearance factors can be unattractive as well, but that doesn't change the fact that one's physical condition is a big factor in attraction. If that makes us guys shallow, so be it.
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Mokkesofie wrote :
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(clicks heels three times)....."there is no place like home"
- October 29th, 2009, 11:11 am
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sqg123 wrote :
1. Obesity is unattractive to almost everyone.
2. Its unwise to date someone who you are not attracted to.

These men are not shallow or mean.
You're missing the point.

Attraction eventually becomes about more things than physical appearance. If the only reason these guys want to date her now is because she's lost weight, then yeah, I'd call that as shallow as suddenly wanting to date someone after they've won the lottery after they'd shown no interest before.
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