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sexyoneop is offline sexyoneop Post #1  October 26,2009, 10:06pm
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We've been seeing each other for a little over a month], and he always tells me we're dating, but he's older so I'm wondering if he considers me his gilfriend but im not sure? any advice? and does anyone know how to approah the topic and when i should approach it?
 
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sexyoneop wrote :
We've been seeing each other for a little over a month], and he always tells me we're dating, but he's older so I'm wondering if he considers me his gilfriend but im not sure? any advice? and does anyone know how to approah the topic and when i should approach it?
Boyfriend or not when I introduce someone I say this is Joe or I may say this is a friend of mine Joe in the early stages.
Even if it was my boyfriend of years I wouldn't say this is my boyfriend. If you are young it may be an age thing.
 
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sexyoneop wrote :
We've been seeing each other for a little over a month], and he always tells me we're dating, but he's older so I'm wondering if he considers me his gilfriend but im not sure? any advice? and does anyone know how to approah the topic and when i should approach it?
Even after I have been dating for a while I don't use the term boyfriend. The closest is for the lack of a better term, boyfriend. Some people just don't like the word. I feel like I am in high school again.
 
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We've been seeing each other for a little over a month], and he always tells me we're dating,
What do you mean by he tells you you're dating? People can be dating lots of others at the same time. Dating doesn't make two people boyfriend and girlfriend, especially if it is only a month.

What needs to be said is that you are ONLY dating each other, meaning that you are exclusive and have decided to be in a relationship together. Unless you have discussed that, it is understandable that he would introduce you as a friend...or even as his date.
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but he's older so I'm wondering if he considers me his gilfriend but im not sure? any advice? and does anyone know how to approah the topic and when i should approach it?
It is possible that if he's older, he is not comfortable with referring to you as a "girl" with girlfriend. But the only way to know is to communicate. We aren't mind readers and can't know what he considers you as.

A month is not a long time to be dating someone if you don't see each other frequently and you have given no indication of the amount of time you spend together. You might be really jumping the gun with the whole girlfriend/boyfriend expectation....or not. If you bring it up, be prepared to scare him off if you are too soon in and he might think you are pushing him into something he is not ready for.
 
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Dating is an act not a state of being. The first time you went out together it was a "date".

When the relationship has matured and you have become exclusive then you should have a title, it could be "girlfriend".

Having only been dating a month the relationship has not reached the point where he would have given you a title. I even find it odd that he would be introducing you to friends and / or family at this stage.
 
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Boyfriend or not when I introduce someone I say this is Joe or I may say this is a friend of mine Joe in the early stages.
Even if it was my boyfriend of years I wouldn't say this is my boyfriend. If you are young it may be an age thing.
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Even after I have been dating for a while I don't use the term boyfriend. The closest is for the lack of a better term, boyfriend. Some people just don't like the word. I feel like I am in high school again.
I don't think that it is age related, I think I am older than either of you. If I was in a relationship that had progressed to where we could be viewed as a couple (like that it ever gonna happen) I would refer to my SO as my girlfriend.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
Even after I have been dating for a while I don't use the term boyfriend. The closest is for the lack of a better term, boyfriend. Some people just don't like the word. I feel like I am in high school again.
How about, "This is my manfriend."
 
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A month is not a long time to be dating someone if you don't see each other frequently and you have given no indication of the amount of time you spend together. You might be really jumping the gun with the whole girlfriend/boyfriend expectation....or not. If you bring it up, be prepared to scare him off if you are too soon in and he might think you are pushing him into something he is not ready for.
Yes....it may simply be that he doesn't consider you his girlfriend.

Something kind of humorous happened to me after I had been dating a woman for about a month. At a party a friend of her that had been a student of mine came up to us and told her "C...you didn't tell me jayjay was your boyfriend." C quickly added to me "I didn't tell her I was your girlfriend." She was nervous I'd think she was telling her friends we were a couple.
 
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DennisWisconsin wrote :
How about, "This is my manfriend."
I introduce all my men this way...

This is :

My "BC" (Booty Call)

My "ABC" (Afternoon Booty Call)

My "NBC" (Night time Booty Call)

My "TBC" (Temporary Booty Call)
 
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How about "This is my date...so & so" ?
 
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