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How about just asking her what she means by it? (crazy idea, I know )
You mean actually communicate with someone? pffffftt!

Why go to the source when you can get the speculation and opinions of hundreds of your closest friends here on EHA?
- October 26th, 2009, 06:47 pm
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MansPOV wrote :
You mean actually communicate with someone? pffffftt!

Why go to the source when you can get the speculation and opinions of hundreds of your closest friends here on EHA?
You meant "dating experts"?
- October 27th, 2009, 06:22 am
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Since you said that this was a response to a GC question. If it was this First Question, "Do you consider yourself physically affectionate when involved in a relationship?" the question does not mention PUBLIC. So there really is no way to know what she means. As suggested asking her would seem like a good course of action.

Personally I have never closed anyone during GC because of their answers. I will evaluate each answer and if there is some questions then I will ask for clarification in OC.
- October 27th, 2009, 09:48 am
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My gf and I are do not like PDA. We hold hands in public, but not very often. Its one of those things that we consider displays of affection as something private and prefer not to do things like that in public. This may be the case here, but you will never know unless you ask. Its different for everyone.
- October 27th, 2009, 10:29 am
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My guess is what everyone who answered with hand-holding. Hugging and kissing maybe not so much. But I really don't understand why, as long as you don't forget where you are and get caught up in the moment. My mom and dad always were hugging and kissing. I guess it just depends on how you grew up. For me it just comes natural just to want to show someone how much you care and at any given moment. Some people are uncomfortable with it, but it makes me wonder how loving they really are in private.
- October 27th, 2009, 10:53 am
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There is no way for US to tell you how SHE defines PDA. Just ask her.

I was surprised to read in one of the other posts that "hand holding" is considered "private" PDA by some. Wouldn't work for me, but to each his own.
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- October 27th, 2009, 04:26 pm
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Benevolence32 wrote :
Yeah I guess I'll just try to get to OC with her since it's hard to say. I've just never been told that before in RL or online so it sort struck me. Just wondered what people thought from their perspective.

I have found than when I ask them to clarify a statement they usually mean it differently than I interpret it. Like if they say they smoke or drink several times a week. My idea of several is most every day and may have a problem. Their idea of several times a week is now and then and they can take it or leave it. Everyones perception is different.
- October 28th, 2009, 07:36 am
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is she a fan of the Phillies?
- October 28th, 2009, 11:31 am
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"Oh, please, say to me
You'll let me be your man
and please, say to me
You'll let me hold your hand
Now let me hold your hand
I wanna hold your hand

And when I touch you I feel happy, inside
It's such a feeling
That my love
I can't hide
I can't hide
I can't hide

Yeah you, got that something
I think you'll understand
When I say that something
I wanna hold your hand
I wanna hold your hand
I wanna hold your hand"

(The Beatles)
- October 28th, 2009, 01:30 pm
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Have you ever heard of a movie called "40 days and 40 nights"? The things you can do with a flower I wouldn't be too concerned....some folks are just private. If she is super orthodox/modest or suffered some trauma in her past....this might be of some concern for you.Orthodox/modest PDA is usually corrected by marriage or at least going steady. Trauma needs to be addressed by therapy. Technically being a Muslim means no PDA...but that also means we are forced to become better verbal/non-verbal communicators of affection.To each his own...hope this is a lesser issue for you as you go along the process in getting to know this person. I find leaving the toilet seat up is a more pertinent issue for me than PDA...which is probably why we don't make up our own questions in GC
- October 28th, 2009, 07:01 pm
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