A twist to the can men and women be friends: Do women punish men who are not interested?


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justme27 is offline justme27 Post #1  October 26,2009, 8:58am
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It's been my experience that in relationships between men and women, if the woman has any interest in the man but the man does not have any interest in the woman than she will in some way punish him for his lack of interest. It can be rather small, like snide remark meant to lower-self esteem or it can be bigger like alienating the man from other women who are mutual friends. Has anyone else experienced this?
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #2  October 26,2009, 9:04am

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No experience. Most of my friends are guys. I have found that most of those games women play with men they play similar games with other women. With my friends I always know where I stand. Just easier that way.
 
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I don't think sour grapes is exclusive to women.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #4  October 26,2009, 9:16am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I've never experienced a woman doing this. If anything, in this situation I find women to be especially on their best behavior as they hope I might come around to having an interest in them at some point.
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #5  October 26,2009, 10:28am
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My only response is "huh?"
On a serious note, yes there are tons of vindictive people out there who probably do that sort of stuff, I just don't hang out with them. In short, you chose who your friends are and what company you keep.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #6  October 26,2009, 10:34am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Ahh. She's not your friend honey, she befriended you to get close to you ...... and to be fair we all (men and women) do that if we can.

She isn't punishing you for not be interested. She feels worthless for getting wrong, she probably thought your 'friendliness' was a green light. I bet she's really embarrassed.

It's not a universal experience. It's just a little bit of localised mess.

Incidentally most of my male friends are gay. We're all greatly relieved that there's no sexual interest and wouldn't dream of punishing each other. Euwwwww.
 
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #7  October 26,2009, 11:55am
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Punishing? Seriously? I have no experience in doing this or seeing my friends do this to guys. What would be the point? If he's not interested, he's not interested. I would agree with the idea that you choose who you're going to hang around with, and I would also add that this kind of action would probably come from someone who is immature and resentful.
 
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Dugl is offline Dugl Post #8  October 26,2009, 1:49pm
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Yes...if they have a good Divorce Attorney.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #9  October 26,2009, 2:56pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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brneyedangel wrote :
Punishing? Seriously?
Well....SOMEONE has to punish me. It's not like I'm going to do it myself.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #10  October 26,2009, 3:00pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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jayjay wrote :
Well....SOMEONE has to punish me. It's not like I'm going to do it myself.

Is your new profile picture you being punished?
 
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