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scarlet13 wrote :
Sorry . Ill go start a thread in the LTAS group later.
Noooo I was just starting to feel special.
- October 27th, 2009, 10:46 am
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you can think amazing thoughts about how the Phillies will win the World Series this year!
Phillies, Phillies, Pillies !
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- October 27th, 2009, 02:36 pm
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
Noooo I was just starting to feel special.
well, there is a new thread in LTAS now anyway
- October 27th, 2009, 05:27 pm
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The guys at my work (and other utilities I talk to) that do the disconnects say they get "offers" all the time. Most of them decline because they know they would get fired, but I've heard a lot of stories about them agreeing, getting what they want, then coming back later and pulling the plug like they originally intended.

I'm nice to people just because it's what I do. If they cut me a break, that's great, but I'm not expecting it or being nice for that reason.
- October 27th, 2009, 09:41 pm
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The guys at my work (and other utilities I talk to) that do the disconnects say they get "offers" all the time. Most of them decline because they know they would get fired, but I've heard a lot of stories about them agreeing, getting what they want, then coming back later and pulling the plug like they originally intended.

I'm nice to people just because it's what I do. If they cut me a break, that's great, but I'm not expecting it or being nice for that reason.
I think I have already said this but I am nice because I am always nice to people. Especially those who have to work with people. I was in line at Petco and this awful woman was putting the cashier through hell. I was next in line, I said to the cashier it is because of people like that that I am in accounting.

People should be nice to other people. I just think it is great that sometimes we get a break for it.
- October 28th, 2009, 06:47 am
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Wouldn't the victim be the company like you said?

The victim could also be the repair man,depending on how he gets paid.
The company is * NEVER * the victim.


Any ab initio loss is dealt with by firing/freezing wages/layoffs and/or passing the costs on to the consumer - you and me.


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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
I think I have already said this but I am nice because I am always nice to people. Especially those who have to work with people. I was in line at Petco and this awful woman was putting the cashier through hell. I was next in line, I said to the cashier it is because of people like that that I am in accounting.

People should be nice to other people. I just think it is great that sometimes we get a break for it.
You shold have hissed the English curse at her:

"I hope you have TEN children --- all of them JUST LIKE YOU !!!"
- October 28th, 2009, 07:51 am
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
I think I have already said this but I am nice because I am always nice to people. Especially those who have to work with people. I was in line at Petco and this awful woman was putting the cashier through hell. I was next in line, I said to the cashier it is because of people like that that I am in accounting.

People should be nice to other people. I just think it is great that sometimes we get a break for it.
You are changing your story now, no? You already started out saying that you were nice/flirty to certain people in an effort to get a break on what they charged you for their services. The breaks you got were not "incidental" to your naturally being nice; they were a payoff for your deliberately engaging them in a particular way with a goal of manipulating them.

Those are two very different scenarios... But, they do bring up interesting questions regarding motivation, morality, ethics, etc. As long as we do what appears to the outside observer to be the "right" thing (i.e., being nice), does it matter if our motives are largely self-serving? At what point does "just doing business" (e.g., using whatever means to "negotiate" a price) become unethical? How do we measure the morality of our actions? Against what standard?
- October 28th, 2009, 08:03 am
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You are changing your story now, no? You already started out saying that you were nice/flirty to certain people in an effort to get a break on what they charged you for their services. The breaks you got were not "incidental" to your naturally being nice; they were a payoff for your deliberately engaging them in a particular way with a goal of manipulating them.

Those are two very different scenarios... But, they do bring up interesting questions regarding motivation, morality, ethics, etc. As long as we do what appears to the outside observer to be the "right" thing (i.e., being nice), does it matter if our motives are largely self-serving? At what point does "just doing business" (e.g., using whatever means to "negotiate" a price) become unethical? How do we measure the morality of our actions? Against what standard?
Actually I never stated my behavior to the world in general. You assumed this was the only time I was kind or flirty. I was curious if the fact that I was aware of the benefits to kindness in the situation made it an act of playing. Your bad, not mine.

My motivation for all my actions is to treat people the way I wish to be treated.
- October 28th, 2009, 08:24 am
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6dle899 wrote :
You shold have hissed the English curse at her:

"I hope you have TEN children --- all of them JUST LIKE YOU !!!"
My mom said that, I had the sense to stop at four.
- October 28th, 2009, 08:27 am
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