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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #1  October 25,2009, 4:19pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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I have only gone and done it.

Months of thinking the site was useless, today I cancelled my eHarmony subscription. As of the 5th November inadequate matching will not be a problem of mine.

What now? Any suggestions? How am I going to get a man? Will I be crawling back with my tail between my legs to have another go or is there another way?
 
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D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #2  October 25,2009, 4:21pm
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There are no men anywhere.

Matching and dating are myths. Sorry.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #3  October 25,2009, 4:26pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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D_Lion wrote :
There are no men anywhere.

Matching and dating are myths. Sorry.

Damn it. I suspected as much. You could've broken the news a little more gently though DL.
 
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I'm starting a new thread: how I would like to meet men.

Join me. We will create a fair system!
 
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LizziePooh is offline LizziePooh Post #5  October 25,2009, 5:45pm

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I want to join. Can we make it real easy for people like me??
 
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Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #7  October 25,2009, 6:39pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
I have only gone and done it.

Months of thinking the site was useless, today I cancelled my eHarmony subscription. As of the 5th November inadequate matching will not be a problem of mine.

What now? Any suggestions? How am I going to get a man? Will I be crawling back with my tail between my legs to have another go or is there another way?
Well, after a couple months on the site I was wondering how useless many on the members seem. Really, the attitude of some folk! It is not point many them having any dates as they'd only ruin any ensuing relationship. This includes boys and girls.

But I agree, E-H is useless if you think it is any more than a cyber glance across a "crowded bar." What happens next is entirely down to you. And if you're disingenuous, less than honest, not a lot is going to happen. Guys might just be after casual sex, and girls they want a hand bag, or even the other way around. Neither actually wants a "relationship." Too much hard work.

I suspect that if your objective was "How am I going to get a man." Of course you'd be disappointed. Nobody "gets" another person.

As case in point, in my brief look at E-H, I was accepting a new date about every week. It was fun. I wasn't what my dates seem to looking for, and they me. Big deal. It was fun playing blind date.

Oh, I met women in other ways other than E-H, eg, train stations, bike paths, art galleries, etc. Too many gorgeous women really, that I E-H was redundant (and I’m no great catch – merely honest). So if you're not meeting dates in day-to-day life E-H can’t help that there is something else not quite working. t only slightly broadens the pool.

[COLOR=black]So where do you met "men." Well all around you. And if you aren’t it is about "you."
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #8  October 25,2009, 7:03pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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trixie1868 wrote :
I have only gone and done it.

Months of thinking the site was useless, today I cancelled my eHarmony subscription. As of the 5th November inadequate matching will not be a problem of mine.

What now? Any suggestions? How am I going to get a man? Will I be crawling back with my tail between my legs to have another go or is there another way?
So Trix...what was your experience with the site like? Did you not get many matches....where there matches but no communication....communication but just not good matches..... etc.?
 
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Faira is offline Faira Post #9  October 25,2009, 7:46pm
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Stay here and hang out with us. There are a lot of people here who started out on eH and made the jump to just being on eHA.
 
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nightling is offline nightling Post #10  October 25,2009, 7:49pm
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[QUOTE=Fleuellen;778881]Well, after a couple months on the site I was wondering how useless many on the members seem. Really, the attitude of some folk! It is not point many them having any dates as they'd only ruin any ensuing relationship. This includes boys and girls.

But I agree, E-H is useless if you think it is any more than a cyber glance across a "crowded bar." What happens next is entirely down to you. And if you're disingenuous, less than honest, not a lot is going to happen. Guys might just be after casual sex, and girls they want a hand bag, or even the other way around. Neither actually wants a "relationship." Too much hard work.

I suspect that if your objective was "How am I going to get a man." Of course you'd be disappointed. Nobody "gets" another person.

As case in point, in my brief look at E-H, I was accepting a new date about every week. It was fun. I wasn't what my dates seem to looking for, and they me. Big deal. It was fun playing blind date.

Oh, I met women in other ways other than E-H, eg, train stations, bike paths, art galleries, etc. Too many gorgeous women really, that I E-H was redundant (and I’m no great catch – merely honest). So if you're not meeting dates in day-to-day life E-H can’t help that there is something else not quite working. t only slightly broadens the pool.

[COLOR=black]So where do you met "men." Well all around you. And if you aren’t it is about "you."
 
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