I've only gone and cancelled my membership ~ what now?

I suppose it is not single people ... it is single people avail. and suitable for a relationship ...

But I gather the only disparaity between men and women is that both want the man to be a few years older ... if you take a modest spread ... ie, women also considering younger males, like men do of women it is about even.

But there are only so many unmarried male millionaires, rock stars out there ... I suspect that is more the issue. Which is just as well as I'd have no hope otherwise.

Actually I have looked at the demographics. It's not even. There are lots more women in the demographic who are single than men.

Plus, men can look at ages much lower than themselves wo incurring much societal judgment, whereas many women cannot and/or do not want to do that.

I have only gone and done it.

Months of thinking the site was useless, today I cancelled my eHarmony subscription. As of the 5th November inadequate matching will not be a problem of mine.

What now? Any suggestions? How am I going to get a man? Will I be crawling back with my tail between my legs to have another go or is there another way?

I cancelled mine today as well, but for a completely different reason... I met someone! We'd been dating for about 4 weeks now and this weekend decided to give it the offical "boyfriend/Girlfriend" status.

I had turned off matching and closed out all of my matches about a week ago. And as a show of "commitment" to the relationship, we both cancelled our subscriptions and deleted any other online services profiles.



Fleu you never cease to amaze me. Though for once I agree with you... (on some level anyway!) EH, or any online dating site, is simply a way to make introductions. Nothing more. If you think it is going to magically find you "the one" or "Mr. Right" or whatever dream girl/guy you are looking for, you'll be sorely disappointed. You still have to do the leg work on your own. Take the time to read profiles and responses to the GC.




That's fun for some, however... for many of us, that's NOT fun. Not at all. I'd rather rub crushed glass in my eye than go out on an endless string of dates with people I have no interest in seeing again. I also feel that I am kind of a hard match. So I've been patient and very selective about who I ended up making a date with as I didn't want to waste their time or mine.

Anyway, what I really wanted to say was that I don't think eHarmony's matching process is any better or worse than any other PAID matching site. (Free sites like Craigslist or PlentyOfFlakes.com are worthless.)

In my experience on EH, I found that there were an inordinate amount of people that never responded to communications (which I assume were people on the free trials) as well as people who did not complete the profile (which I assume abandoned the signup process).

However, of the people who were actually willing to pony up for the service and responded in some way (even to close the match), I found the quality of those matches to be pretty strong. A lot of quality women on here actually! Not necessarily a good match for me, but quality people none the less.

Stats:
Time on EH: about 4 1/2 months
Matches: Several hundred
Matches that made it to OC: 4
Dates: 2 coffee dates (no 2nd date) / 1 coffee date that evolved into the current relationship.

Would I use the service again? Yeah probably.

The other thing I want to say is that I have spent a lot of time reading these boards and will continue to do so. I have found the advice and input of the community here to be really invaluable.

And last but not least ... this article on never married men above age forty, which tends to indicate that the pool of single men that age actually looking for marriage is likely a good bit less than the total.