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Ok so im new to this whole e harmony thing. But I did have a girl that was interested in going out with me and so we did. The night went on and I thought it was goin GREAT.. but then I got a text from her the day after and said that we shouldnt be seeing eachother any more... Where did I go wrong.. what did i do wrong she said i was clingy ...

So you know here is what I did ...
put my arm around her in the movies (we had talked for about 2 weeks or so over the fone before meeting )
we went and ate dinner( i paid not that that matters)
I tried to call her at night ... texted her at lunch when i new she would be free
i cant remember what i did but i may have given her a kiss on the cheek when after hangin out at her house after (with her parents) she grabbed my hand as we went to go feed her animals....
What tha heck
somebody help me
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  October 25,2009, 12:18pm
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You did nothing wrong.

She just didn't like you, or like you enough relative to other prospects, to justify continuing with you.

No option but to keep at it.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #3  October 25,2009, 12:26pm
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It seems very common for people to think if they just 'did something different' or 'hadn't done something' then a date would have liked them. Some people just don't feel compatible with others and you're not going to do or not do something that will make them magically like you. You just move on.
 
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Hello and welcome to the boards. Sorry about your date doesn't sound like you did anything wrong... it happens to alot of people heck I've been kicked to the curb so many times I have a reserved parking spot (found my smileys yeah)
 
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Actually, consider it a courtesy. She likely was not feeling the same vibe that you were, but she politely returned the affection. And rather than poofing like so many people out there do, she actually sent you some feedback... She wasn't that interested and your affections were a little too much for her on a first date. You just misread some signals. Live and learn.
 
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As the others said you did nothing wrong. She just was not into and there is nothing that you could have done differently that would have changed that.

At least she told you that she was not interested. Most all my matches just poof.
 
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jayjay wrote :
It seems very common for people to think if they just 'did something different' or 'hadn't done something' then a date would have liked them. Some people just don't feel compatible with others and you're not going to do or not do something that will make them magically like you. You just move on.
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and five stars too.

You know you might spend five or ten minutes listing anything out you think might have been disconcerting to her and then resolve to do better on your next date, but that's about it. What Jayjay said is so true. And at least she didn't leave you hanging in uncertainty like so many others do. Thank her for her time, wish her well and move on.
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You could do all those same things and it would go over very well, with a different person. Sorry for your disappointment!
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #9  October 26,2009, 9:29am

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troutbumarcher wrote :
she grabbed my hand as we went to go feed her animals....
What tha heck
somebody help me
what the heck is right...what did you go to a petting zoo or sumthin?

Hope you didn't spend too much money on the dinner
 
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