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I have no issues.
I have a myriad of them, should you need to borrow any or all or just a small selection. I give them away free to a good home. Most always wander back at one time or another.
- October 23rd, 2009, 09:13 pm
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D: are you stating that any attribute I find to be undesirable is not an issue, but a personal choice on the part of the man? I'm not sure if you are or are not.
- October 23rd, 2009, 09:13 pm
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lol! I think I learned to read Frog. Do you think I can put that on my resume?
lol...I can read 'frog' and stats...but sometimes I am trying to assess if "The D" talks like this on a date...

...that may explain his ambivalence....(no offense to "The D"!)

I mean, really...if I talked stats all day my date's eyes would glaze over and they would begin to froth at the mouth(they always seem to just want me to look pretty and laugh at their mundane quips)....so I guess I am envious and wondering how does he get away with avoiding questions by talking this way???????....

*double sigh*...if we could all be this impersonal, life would be soooo much easier...si verdad!
- October 23rd, 2009, 09:13 pm
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D: are you stating that any attribute I find to be undesirable is not an issue, but a personal choice on the part of the man? I'm not sure if you are or are not.

Well, we have gone on a tangent from a tangent on this thread.

I started with a premise that there are good people – or, I should say, people who appear good to us will often be what they appear to be, and we should not be skeptical of them due to appearing good.
- October 23rd, 2009, 09:23 pm
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I have a myriad of them, should you need to borrow any or all or just a small selection. I give them away free to a good home. Most always wander back at one time or another.
But they still wouldn't be my issues. They would simply be attributes borrowed for the sake of infuriating the frog
- October 23rd, 2009, 09:29 pm
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If you had a borrowed issue, would you confess what it was?
- October 23rd, 2009, 09:30 pm
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Only with permission from the lender.
- October 23rd, 2009, 09:38 pm
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nightling wrote :
So when you have a daughter someday you will advise her to trust her dates automatically and not to worry about date ra.pe?
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I’m not sure I should try to answer the question, since I will not be having children.

I will say, that in my life generally, I do try very hard to make choices which I can defend with data – I do my job that way, and I manage my life choices in the same manner.

I would be far more afraid that my child fails to get a good job, than I would about who they date; I’m certain of this.
I would be more than happy to take this one for you since I have a daughter who is 19 years old. We live in StL so no big city experience. I have raised her without fear and she has none. Fear distorts your view or reality more than any other emotion. You fear as a child the trees are monsters that will eat you. You fear as a teenager that you will not be accepted. Apparently you fear as an adult that someone will use you or hurt you.

What benefit is this fear?

This young woman, my daughter, went to NYC alone at 17 to look at colleges. I will admit children will make you fear whether you want to or not. I worried until I got up there to meet her. I wasn't on the ground five minutes an she was rattling off the trains I need to take to get to the hotel. I met her in Times Square, mom, "this guy" introducing me to these random people she met the night before.

These were people no fearful person would ever speak to. Yet raised without fear, taught to never judge another human being less you accept you could miss something precious, she always see that thing that every one of us has.

So no, seeing everything that is out there I would never want either of my daughters to stop trusting the good in people. Especially those they may choose to spend their lives with.
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nightling wrote :
I will just point out, that unlike car accidents which are often random occurrences and truly accidents, the con artist isn't random. He chooses his victim, and a component of that is someone who is naive, inexperienced and/or just too da.mn willing to trust him.
Trust doesn't make someone a victim. I am very trusting but I have never been a victim. It is being a victim that makes you a target. I don't know if I can explain it. No I know I can't. Perhaps it comes to what you feel trust is. I think to me trust is the willingness to explore the nature of the person I am speaking with without walls in the way.
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lol...I can read 'frog' and stats...but sometimes I am trying to assess if "The D" talks like this on a date...

...that may explain his ambivalence....(no offense to "The D"!)

I mean, really...if I talked stats all day my date's eyes would glaze over and they would begin to froth at the mouth(they always seem to just want me to look pretty and laugh at their mundane quips)....so I guess I am envious and wondering how does he get away with avoiding questions by talking this way???????....

*double sigh*...if we could all be this impersonal, life would be soooo much easier...si verdad!
I am so glad this thread was started. I find it very interesting. To the quote, I described calculus to a self-described math hater who said coming from me it sounds beautiful. It is the passion for what you love that makes it interesting.

What I find interesting about the thread is I don't really know anyone here. I don't know the dynamics. So I am pretty unbiased. Looking at what was posted and the responses I don't see how some conclusions could be drawn in the manner they were from the data presented. I can only conclude that the differences in interpreting the words of other posters was caused by the biases of the reader acting as a filter. This does in fact back up the assertion of the original post.

Meh, or the data could be flawed.
- October 23rd, 2009, 10:26 pm
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