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peg099 is offline peg099 Post #21  October 23,2009, 4:38pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Perhaps - people don't like admitting to faults.
perhaps - that extends to frogs.

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Very many people on this service make all kinds of unvalidated assumptions - "he would have called if he was interested in you; he left because you had sex too soon," etc - these are errors of personal opinion masquerading as fact which I think many people make and I strive to avoid.
The fact that other people make all sorts of unvalidated assumptions has no bearing whatsoever on whether you yourself have baggage.

And perhaps their assumptions have more to do with ignorance than they do with baggage.
 
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jayjay wrote :
The purpose of this thread is for people to try to 'prove' you're not too good to be true?

Didn't I prove that already?
 
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I admit to faults ... though I tend to see them not as faults but as attributes.

Some of my attributes make me less desirable to some women - though that does not make them "faults."
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I admit to faults ... though I tend to see them not as faults but as attributes.

Some of my attributes make me less desirable to some women - though that does not make them "faults."
And perhaps other people's reactions and assumptions are not faults either, but simply 'attributes' that reflect value systems that are different to yours.
 
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I consider an assumption, by definition, to be a flawed means of reaching a conclusion. This is a sign of sloppy or inadequate intellect.

For sure, it is easy to see someone choosing to overlook that in someone who is kind, thoughful ... or anything else they're seeking.

I think it's getting off the point, though (both points: my OP, and the actual discussion about whether I have "baggage.")
 
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D_Lion wrote :
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Now, speaking as someone without baggage or blemishes in my past, who is forthright and direct with my partners, I can prove this premise false (at least, by anecdotal example.)

Assuming my objective attributes are satisfactory to a woman – and for sure they will often not be – there is not with me the Dr. Jekyll / Mr. Hyde, hiding.

I am one, and where there is one there must be others.

“Too good to be true” is a bad attitude to have.
So the premise is that some people put up a front and that leads people not to trust what they see on the surface.

And that premise is false bc you don't do it yourself?

*scratches head*
 
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Well, maybe I should have written my post better.

I think it is a bad idea to start off with a belief that people should not be trusted.
 
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nightling wrote :
So the premise is that some people put up a front and that leads people not to trust what they see on the surface.

And that premise is false bc you don't do it yourself?

*scratches head*
Ohhh, that was really good!!!

You smart!!
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Well, maybe I should have written my post better.

I think it is a bad idea to start off with a belief that people should not be trusted.
You'll think that ... until someone slips something into your drink just to have sex with you.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I consider an assumption, by definition, to be a flawed means of reaching a conclusion. This is a sign of sloppy or inadequate intellect.
And I consider the failure to incorporate a component of emotion into decision making to be a flawed means of arriving at a conclusion because it is not based on complete information. It is the sign of sloppy or inadequate human development.

See, you make assumptions too - you assume that your way of arriving at conclusions is more valid and by extension foolproof. What I am suggesting is that your way may have limitations of its own, that you do not recognize because you see them through your own filter.
 
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