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I have a good life long friend who has more past marriage and baggage problems that I can count on several hands, and he has no job and is not particularly attractive, but he gets date after date with the hottest women, and all the women he meets line up and want to marry him. He has never been successful in school or his career, but he has always got the women since he was a yound teen, and he has lots and lots of experience with women. I know lots of men who are a lot more attractive and financially successful than him, and they cannot get a date. And they always are asking me how my friend does it.

I am another one of those people who was focused on good grades, being successful in sports, and being successful in my career. I never found or made the time to socialize or date women when I was younger, and I think I am paying for it now. I actually in a way envy the so called "loser men" who get all the women. I have very little material baggage, but I think my lack of experience with women from my younger years is hurting me.
OK, are you done with the pity party now? Good.

Now really ask yourself - would you really trade all the success in your life for the failed marriages and baggage that your friend has? Would you really - really - want any of the women you claim he hooks up with? Would you want a woman who's drawn to a guy with so much trouble?
- October 26th, 2009, 11:49 pm
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people are never who they say they are. people don't know squat.

i'll tell my story again: my boyfriend originally told me he likes nature. reality: his idea of nature was a manicured lawn, a folding chair, and a cooler by his side. not an ounce of nature in sight. we went on a walk and he made a sour face the whole time because it was so arduous for him trying to avoid the dirt on a dirt path.
- October 27th, 2009, 12:52 am
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lil_lamb wrote :
people are never who they say they are. people don't know squat.

i'll tell my story again: my boyfriend originally told me he likes nature. reality: his idea of nature was a manicured lawn, a folding chair, and a cooler by his side. not an ounce of nature in sight. we went on a walk and he made a sour face the whole time because it was so arduous for him trying to avoid the dirt on a dirt path.
He may have truly believed that is nature. I am not seeing it but who knows.
- October 27th, 2009, 12:14 pm
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No, it's the big long one on page 20, talks about why people have screens in terms of behavourist theory. Interesting to me anyway.
Yes, I read through that post several times. I think his theory has merit, our brains are clearly very much like sponges at an early age ... look at how quickly small children learn to speak for example, and how difficult it is for many of us as adults to learn a new language.

I think some screens are formed from preferences and some from baggage.

I think D has both, but he fully believes his screens are all formed from preferences and ergo, has no baggage.
- October 27th, 2009, 02:50 pm
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I wonder if the baggage is made of supple leather ....
- October 27th, 2009, 02:59 pm
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I wonder if the baggage is made of supple leather ....
I prefer Louis Vuitton
- October 27th, 2009, 03:26 pm
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I wonder if the baggage is made of supple leather ....

From the finest, bug-bite-free, virgin cows ...

If I was in the market, which I isn't!
- October 27th, 2009, 04:02 pm
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Thats the one! Thanks. I was always trying to remember what the name of that movie was.
Amazing what you can learn on eHA.
- October 27th, 2009, 04:10 pm
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Somehow, every time you say that, this is what I see :


I may be wise beyind my years, but that baggage must belong to Al Capone!

I say I've none! Can't prove otherwise!
- October 27th, 2009, 04:16 pm
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I don't know that I can get through this entire thread, but DL, do you not agree you have baggage when it comes to women you presume to have a sense of entitlement?

In fact I believe you've stated more than once your presumption comes from prior experiences with past partners.

Many, many people do not "see" their own baggage.
- October 27th, 2009, 04:24 pm
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