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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
Not so much generalizing as not specific enough. Sorry about that. Some criminals look for victims based on ease of the crime. Those that are impaired for one reason or another will not choose a crime of convience. This is of course if they are inclined to commit a crime. Does that help? I am distracted with work at the moment so I may still not be clear.
That does help, thank you.

Sorry about the reaction...I'm in social services, and I get a little irked by negative blanket statements about people with mental illness and/or...sometimes I jump the gun too quickly...

Peace.

ETA: Btw, if you *were* hurt by someone who was mentally ill or on drugs...the fact that these things influenced doesn't absolve them. It may be a reason, but it's not an excuse.
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D_Lion wrote :
That was a very thoughtful, very well written post.
Sway you any?
- October 26th, 2009, 04:10 pm
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Baggage, now that's an intersting word. If you are over 18 you have to have some baggage or you have not lived at all. You have been locked up some where. After a certain age we all have some kind of baggage so to speek. The question is; is it good or bad...
- October 26th, 2009, 04:27 pm
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Let me try this:

It is possible to build an analytical model to make a decision.
Say you want to paint some rooms in your house? You go to the store and get paint … but how much? Buy not enough and you have the inconvenience, wasted time and travel cost to get more; buy too much and you have wasted money. It is possible a person might have a pre-existing bias regarding the relative value of wasted time versus wasted money, from whatever prior experience.

Or, you could have measured your prior painting, and calculated the square feet a can is good for, then, knowing the area that needs painting, purchase exactly the right amount. Thus, you solve the problem more precisely, leaving more money available to buy your favorite Frog a drink.

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In my view, it is never baggage to optimize an outcome using a repeatable quantitative assessment. Such methodology is also valid (in the aggregate) across opportunities which can only be assessed probabilistically (such as the risk of missing work and travel expense to have a job interview, relative to the likelihood of getting a better job.)

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I will accept you have presented a variety of explanations for why a specific woman may accept multiple instances of subsidy in her dating, however I see this as addressing only the (straw man) argument that a woman accepting subsidy is greedy. If my decision point is the constraint matter of available funds, and not the moral matter of “greedy,” the point is moot.

I suggest, that I use an analytical model, and thus do not have any baggage. None!
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D_Lion wrote :
Let me try this:

It is possible to build an analytical model to make a decision.
Say you want to paint some rooms in your house? You go to the store and get paint … but how much? Buy not enough and you have the inconvenience, wasted time and travel cost to get more; buy too much and you have wasted money. It is possible a person might have a pre-existing bias regarding the relative value of wasted time versus wasted money, from whatever prior experience.

Or, you could have measured your prior painting, and calculated the square feet a can is good for, then, knowing the area that needs painting, purchase exactly the right amount. Thus, you solve the problem more precisely, leaving more money available to buy your favorite Frog a drink.

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In my view, it is never baggage to optimize an outcome using a repeatable quantitative assessment. Such methodology is also valid (in the aggregate) across opportunities which can only be assessed probabilistically (such as the risk of missing work and travel expense to have a job interview, relative to the likelihood of getting a better job.)

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I will accept you have presented a variety of explanations for why a specific woman may accept multiple instances of subsidy in her dating, however I see this as addressing only the (straw man) argument that a woman accepting subsidy is greedy. If my decision point is the constraint matter of available funds, and not the moral matter of “greedy,” the point is moot.

I suggest, that I use an analytical model, and thus do not have any baggage. None!
But the paint is a constant variable and people are not as constant or reliable as paint.

OK Froggie, I'll leave you to your assertion but you know you don't like greedy and you know that I think you've got 'baggage'.

Green paint?
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D_Lion wrote :
No baggage!
I don't date people with no baggage because I assume that they lack the funds to pay checked luggage fees.
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The world would be a better place if innocence weren't a flaw.
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No baggage!

You do make me laugh.
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nightling wrote :
The world would be a better place if innocence weren't a flaw.
My mother always said untried virtue is no virtue.

And then she'd nail me with a death stare.
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