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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #71  October 24,2009, 10:09am

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Oh well. We could always do what I did the one time. How are you at catching stray cats? If you are good at that then we could keep throwing it at the mouse till it gets the picture & kills the mouse for us, while we eat our lunch while standing on chairs. Sounds romantic, doesn't it?
Actually I HAVE removed a dead mouse (or two) from my prior house before...so I can deal with it if I have to...I just won't kill it...there was this one time I saw a little mouse tiptoe-ing across my kitchen...that little guy was too cute so I ended up using a broom and a shovel to transport him out to the backyard (this was when I used to live near the forest...so maybe he got lost).

Same with spiders...instead of killing...I just catch them and throw them out. Who knows you might be killing momma spider and the kids might get upset

Now I live in the 'burbs..no more mouse to safe (or to protect you from) so yeah...we don't have to stand on chairs when we eat our lunch
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #72  October 24,2009, 10:14am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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I want to be protected from spiders, if my man can't do that I want him to help me to provide for a cleaner who will deal with the spiders. I want us to nurture our domestic helper in all they do so that the dull side of homemaking is done for us and we just get to spend our spider free time being happy. Easy.
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
I want to be protected from spiders, if my man can't do that I want him to help me to provide for a cleaner who will deal with the spiders. I want us to nurture our domestic helper in all they do so that the dull side of homemaking is done for us and we just get to spend our spider free time being happy. Easy.
THUMBS UP for this.

This is how they do it overseas at least in Asia...domestic helpers. Cuts down the house chores bickering significantly (and divorce rate too).
 
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librarybabe is offline librarybabe Post #74  October 24,2009, 10:24am
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trixie1868 wrote :
I want to be protected from spiders, if my man can't do that I want him to help me to provide for a cleaner who will deal with the spiders. I want us to nurture our domestic helper in all they do so that the dull side of homemaking is done for us and we just get to spend our spider free time being happy. Easy.
haha! I like it!
 
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i am now spider phobic. But I used to catch them as a kid and carry them around in a match box back before I knew some could be poisonous.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #76  October 24,2009, 10:44am

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PY_2 wrote :
THUMBS UP for this.

This is how they do it overseas at least in Asia...domestic helpers. Cuts down the house chores bickering significantly (and divorce rate too).
Well the spiders are bigger and scarier there so it probably arose out of necessity.
 
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Protector,

I think most of us can identify with this role. Just think, someone has verbally slammed a friend in a crowd of people and behind his back. Some lounge lizard has cornered one of your friends in a pub. The neighborhood shirtless man has dragged his wife into the street and is acquainting her with the asphalt. I don't find it difficult to step up and make my small world and make it better place. It doesn't have to be dramatic. “Wow, does Paul know you feel this way?” “Hey, there you are! The gang is waiting for us at the bar.” “911”.

I want a man that will do the same thing. Stand up for me. Ease a social difficulty. Do the right thing. He has a high sense of personal responsibility. I need him to be, no matter how tall or short he is, a man I look up to.
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Provider,

I think women are often providers as well … but I don't think we often label these contributions as providing.

When I was dating a widowed man with children, I asked him if I could take his boys out before Father's Day. I picked them up, drove them around to different stores, bought lunch and dinner for the boys. We shopped for special gifts and wrapped them in the restaurant. You should have seen them run up the stairs with the gifts to hide them. The boys strutted around like “men with a plan”. So funny. He told me later, since he was widowed when they were only two, he seldom received Father's day gifts or cards.

I guess, since I have a car, a house, a 401K, a job I love, I would enjoy the ease. I am the sole provider of my world. It might be really nice to know I wasn't alone in that way. I think Jayjay explained this well.
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Would someone pick up that dagnabbit laser level and stick it back on the wall so that I can hang this here piece of carp that I bought but am not sure it goes with this room but I was alone and didn't have anyone to bounce this off of but you know, that is life and now I have to put this on the bed and get the dagnabbit laser level back on the wall OMG I think I just stepped on the hammer and the dagnabbit thing cut my instep OK where are the band-aids nope not in the vanity hmmmm ow ow ow ow ow I hit the corner of the dresser OK found them *sigh* I stuck the level back on the wall ok ok ok now I just run around the side here and step up on the bed *crunch* DAGNABBIT.
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trixie1868 wrote :
Well the spiders are bigger and scarier there so it probably arose out of necessity.
Having spend several years living in Asia, I can vouch for two things, one, the spiders are REALLY F'ING HUGE! and two, having a domestic staff makes your life much easier and less stressful.
 
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