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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #101  October 25,2009, 12:16am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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scarlet13 wrote :
I'm not a crazy cat lady- i need about 9 more cats for that.
You'd need 9 more? How many do you have now.... negative 4?
 
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jayjay wrote :
You'd need 9 more? How many do you have now.... negative 4?
just the one.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
What is the significance to these colors?
There was significance ... but when they finally got out of moderation all the formatting was messed up. I didn't see your post last night but:

Protector is purple (because I sense this in peeps, purple, I mean)
Provider is green (really, D, need I explain?)
Nurturer is red (because of red's warmth)
Homemaker is orange (because ... well ... I clean with orange scented products and love the depot?)

I need dinner. Are you still alone? Can you deliver a gluten free pizza? Please?
 
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Am I a (gluten-free) purple people eater?
 
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You're tasty, I can attest to that.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
i was going to suggest getting a cat. mine takes care of yucky bugs and the occasional mouse that tries to get in the house.
Any suggestions for dog people? Although our old family dog did try to kill the rodent population, he had better success outside than indoors. Also, I have an apartment where I am not allowed pets. If I were maybe I could do without a guy. :P
 
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jayjay wrote :
Ok....so you wrote how you like to receive these things. How about what you expect go give in a relationship....and if or how this is different than what you want from a man.
Oh fiddle. I was hoping no one would notice how selfish my post was. Besides, why do you pick on me? The question was actually "What do you want to be protected from? What do you want provided to you? How do you want to be nurtured? What work makes a home for you?"

Well, I believe in doing some of the same things that I want to receive, the whole do unto others what you would have them do unto you thing. But of course it gets more complicated when the thing that floats my boat may leave the guy in my life feeling neglected. So one thing I expect to give to a man in a relationship is to find out what things make him feel protected, provided for, nurtured and feel like his home was a haven where he wanted to be and then see what I could do about fulfilling those needs. Every guy being different, I don't know how exactly how I could expect to give in the relationship.

I guess if that sounds like a cop-out, there are some things that I figure all men would want.

I would protect his ego by not embarrassing him around others and complaining about him publicly. And more than that, admiring him.

I would provide him with emotional security, that he would find me a safe person to be open with and I would never betray his trust, that I would support his dreams and goals. And provide him with enjoyable conversation . (My chattiness better be good for something.)

I would nurture him by looking after his emotional, physical, & dare I say sexual well being. As I am also attracted to men who like to learn and discuss what they are learning, I would also like to do whatever I can to nurture their intellectual & spiritual growth as well.

I... am losing my imagination when it comes to the whole homemaker thing. Just that I would want the home to feel like a safe haven for him as well, and not a place of stress and discord. I would think that has more to do with relationships than household cleaning.
 
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librarybabe wrote :
Oh fiddle. I was hoping no one would notice how selfish my post was. Besides, why do you pick on me? The question was actually "What do you want to be protected from? What do you want provided to you? How do you want to be nurtured? What work makes a home for you?"

Well, I believe in doing some of the same things that I want to receive, the whole do unto others what you would have them do unto you thing. But of course it gets more complicated when the thing that floats my boat may leave the guy in my life feeling neglected. So one thing I expect to give to a man in a relationship is to find out what things make him feel protected, provided for, nurtured and feel like his home was a haven where he wanted to be and then see what I could do about fulfilling those needs. Every guy being different, I don't know how exactly how I could expect to give in the relationship.

I guess if that sounds like a cop-out, there are some things that I figure all men would want.

I would protect his ego by not embarrassing him around others and complaining about him publicly. And more than that, admiring him.

I would provide him with emotional security, that he would find me a safe person to be open with and I would never betray his trust, that I would support his dreams and goals. And provide him with enjoyable conversation . (My chattiness better be good for something.)

I would nurture him by looking after his emotional, physical, & dare I say sexual well being. As I am also attracted to men who like to learn and discuss what they are learning, I would also like to do whatever I can to nurture their intellectual & spiritual growth as well.

I... am losing my imagination when it comes to the whole homemaker thing. Just that I would want the home to feel like a safe haven for him as well, and not a place of stress and discord. I would think that has more to do with relationships than household cleaning.
A nice post. I gave it a five.
 
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nightling wrote :
A nice post. I gave it a five.
Wow thanks!
 
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