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Same here. But every week we get a new thread on weight that goes on for 20+ pages. Hmmm.
Yes and if all these people spent time running instead of typing all these "am I too fat" questions, these threads would cease!
- November 4th, 2009, 06:52 pm
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I don't care about weight. I care about health. If the person is unhealthy he or she is considered in the negative to me.
But I certainly wouldn't cross the person out just because they are overweight in dating/relationships/friendships.
Weight can be shed through encouragement, proper eating habits and light>moderate exercise but good character and values isn't easily found in a person.
Besides I used to be a chubby kid but it was all lost in my strenuous kiddy activities and I take so many walks daily and can never really sit still anyway I don't ever have to go near a gym.
- November 4th, 2009, 07:43 pm
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AsianGal wrote :
I don't care about weight. I care about health. If the person is unhealthy he or she is considered in the negative to me.
But I certainly wouldn't cross the person out just because they are overweight in dating/relationships/friendships.
This is pretty much how I feel, everybody carries their weight differently and if they at least try to take care of themselves health wise I'm not going to judge them for who they are or what they look like.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:19 pm
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SteveVance wrote :
Yes and if all these people spent time running instead of typing all these "am I too fat" questions, these threads would cease!
First so you don't have a go at me, I am not fat. I don't really give a rats a** what you look like take a look at what you just said. I get that people need to get up and start taking action but insulting them in this manner is not helping. For laughs think before typing.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:53 pm
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I can't give an exact figure. Some just looks overweight to me, or someone just doesn't.
- November 4th, 2009, 10:24 pm
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One has to remember that different bodies, different immune systems, different processes within an individual bodies mean that while some men and women can seem to go through life scarfing down 10 course meals (but not necessarily being healthy body/health-wise) they are as thin as twigs or maintain the image of slenderness, while other men and women who maintain relatively reasonable diets and lifestyle maintain higher reserves of fats compared to muscle or look "fatter" because of a different body system and metabolism.
Some people also look chubbier than others even though they might be healthier because of height, fashion (makes a big difference) and body structure.

We as a society have taken a bit of a wrong turn when we think that everyone should fit the "ideal" body shape of certain individuals, certain molds when this cannot be further from the truth - we are all shaped very differently even if we're the same height and weight.
- November 4th, 2009, 11:17 pm
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
First so you don't have a go at me, I am not fat. I don't really give a rats a** what you look like take a look at what you just said. I get that people need to get up and start taking action but insulting them in this manner is not helping. For laughs think before typing.
It wasn't an insult, it was a true observation. I am sorry it may have appeared as an insult.
- November 5th, 2009, 07:39 pm
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