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Overweight is just that, someone who has a BMI greater than the number set for the person's height and weight. I think the real question is when does someone consider someone too overweight to date. I have found many women who might be referred to as "BBW" to be very attractive and weight isn't what I make my determination with.
- October 26th, 2009, 12:19 pm
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For men....if their shoes don't match.

For women....if they are a solid mass to their knees.
- October 26th, 2009, 03:53 pm
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Who knows ? I'm 6'2" 188 and wear 34w jeans, but my physical from this year recommended I lose 8-12 lbs......not sure from where
- October 26th, 2009, 07:15 pm
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nightling wrote :
In HS I was a size 8. I played 3 sports including xcountry.

I guess sizes hae changed a lot?
Yes, I believe they have. From what I was told, the young "thin" girls didn't have any jeans or clothes that fit them properly, so that's where we got the double and single "OO and O" in clothing. Maybe it was a fashion designer thing, I really dont know. You sort of have to ignore sizes and see what fits.
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hazmat wrote :
Who knows ? I'm 6'2" 188 and wear 34w jeans, but my physical from this year recommended I lose 8-12 lbs......not sure from where
Actually, I think that speaks well of you, Haz. Some of my guy friends who have mucho muscles complain about some H/W charts. These charts don't allow for your kind of muscle mass. I imagine you have very little fat.

Ignore that recommendation.
- October 26th, 2009, 08:53 pm
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hazmat wrote :
Who knows ? I'm 6'2" 188 and wear 34w jeans, but my physical from this year recommended I lose 8-12 lbs......not sure from where
Maybe they want you to be able to squeeze through an even smaller pipe.

At 6'2" 188, it's amazing you were able to fit into the others and still be able to move enough to do your job.
- October 27th, 2009, 02:47 pm
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stevex wrote :
Overweight is just that, someone who has a BMI greater than the number set for the person's height and weight.
Muscle weighs more than fat and BMI don't take that into account so someone who is muscular with no fat will get the result "overweight" or even "obese" using the BMI system.
- October 27th, 2009, 03:22 pm
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Maybe they want you to be able to squeeze through an even smaller pipe.

At 6'2" 188, it's amazing you were able to fit into the others and still be able to move enough to do your job.

Heh...the pipes would've been much easier without 70lbs of gear too
- October 28th, 2009, 05:52 pm
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I am 6 ft, 225 lbs, work out on weights and cardio 4 to 6 times a week, so I am in reasonable physical condition. If I can't carry the woman over the threshold at the front door, without getting a hernia, she is overweight to me. I just rejoined EH today, after the free week end, where you could not see photos. The first five matches where I could now see their photos are all more than I could carry.
- October 28th, 2009, 06:26 pm
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I' \m a size 5/6 - most women's ideal. However, I am only 5'3 - and thus- am at my best at a size 3. I find it odd that the American ideal is size 8 - I'd be overweight at size 8.
- November 4th, 2009, 01:57 am
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