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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I think that at 6'2" and 250 lbs that your guy is not exactly svelte.
Depending on build 6'2" 250 can actually be pretty decent shape. More likely it is kinda schlubby...
- October 23rd, 2009, 08:43 am
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bekka74 wrote :
I'm sure this will sound bad, but if anyone has a question if someone else is overweight just ask a child or a teenager..
I had a little girl tell me I'm not fat. It was a nice compliment. I'm 5'7" and 250lbs...but I've been told I carry my weight well. I've also had a doctor tell me (when doing a test where he put needles in my muscles...can't recall the name) that I had thick muscles. According to my BMI I'm morbidly obese

So many varied opinions of what overweight is, and I think it makes it confusing for those of us who are picture perfect.
- October 23rd, 2009, 08:44 am
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I have no visual as to what size 8 or 10 means. And I think that you could be 5'0" and a size 8 and 6'0" and a size 8 and be vastly different build.
This is very true. Clothing sizes can mean absolutely nothing, since I wear a 10 or 12 jeans depending on the cut and brand name, and I am 5'8"

But that being said, also agree with MelMan about the "where you carry it."

Something I am very self conscious about is since I got over 40, my weight kind of shifted up. Essentially, all my weight is from the waist up, notice the avatar, skinny jeans and BIG sweatshirt.

Women at the place I work out say "Oh, wish I had that problem, give me some," because all their weight is in their rear. You would not want it if you had it! At least since I work out and exercise they aren't hanging down to my waist.

I could afford to lose about 25 pounds, but I would also lose about 3 cup sizes. Where is the vomit emoticon.
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- October 23rd, 2009, 09:12 am
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Give me feet, inches and pounds (or if you want to do it in cm and kg I have a calculator).
160cm, 66kg
- October 23rd, 2009, 10:08 am
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I think someone would have to be very obviously overweight for me to actually label them as such. But, I think I am harder on women, probably mostly because the style of women's clothing is so much more form-fitting than men's. You just notice it more. Plus, men tend to be more muscular, and fat doesn't look so, well. . .mushy, when it's spread out over a decent amount of muscle mass. I definitely do not think of a women's size 8 or 10 as being overweight though. I mean, maybe on a 16 year old. . .and I would feel enormous if I went up 6 to 8 sizes, but I guess it's easier to be hard on yourself.
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Psycue wrote :
I'm very curious to know when you feel a person, male or female, is overweight to you.
Overweight to me (for both men and women) generally means someone who carries a quite noticeable (and sometimes significant) amount of extra weight in or around their bellies and hips that is mostly fat. It can also be seen in other parts of the body (such as face, arms, etc), but it usually starts in the hips or around the belly. Evidence of this is what is commonly called a "muffin top" (as can be seen with woman who are overweight or obese wearing low cut jeans like pictured in the link):

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9CUic2Wm3I...muffin+top.jpg

or for men, something like this (affectionately known as the "beer belly"):

http://4pack.files.wordpress.com/200...at-obesity.jpg

For those with big legs and butt with a significant amount of cellulite, that is a strong sign they are overweight.

Take a look at the photo here for some perspective:

http://jkc2009.files.wordpress.com/2...men-sizes1.jpg

I wouldn't consider any of these women overweight. Their weight is equally distributed, they all have hourglass shapes, and their weight appears to be appropriate for their bone structure. Quite frankly, I find the size 16 most attractive. Yet in real life I have never met a size 16 woman that looked like this woman pictured. Or the size 12 for that matter. Every women I have met in real life that have been size 12-16 have a significant amount of extra weight in their hips and/or bellies, and they would all fall into the overweightor obese category.
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But, I think I am harder on women, probably mostly because the style of women's clothing is so much more form-fitting than men's. You just notice it more. Plus, men tend to be more muscular, and fat doesn't look so, well. . .mushy, when it's spread out over a decent amount of muscle mass.
I also think women can look fatter when they cram themselves into clothes that do not flatter or fit them. This was especially true with the low waist jeans where the flab had no where to hide! So unflattering!
- October 23rd, 2009, 11:53 am
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
I am awful at judging this. All I can say is I know it when I see it.
This. I'm terrible at guessing how someone's looks correspond to their weight, so I couldn't give you a dress size or weight that counts as overweight in my book (plus it varies somewhat based on how that weight is distributed)...Show me a bunch of pictures of people though and I could tell you which ones I think are overweight.
- October 23rd, 2009, 12:13 pm
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There are two different aspects of this for me. One is if someone seems to be 'overweight'....as in at an unhealthy weight. A different aspect for me is if I find the weight a woman is at to be attractive, which for me is generally at a somewhat lower weight than 'overweight'. However....I'm really not familiar enough with clothing sizes to know what an 8 or 10 even means. The only thing I know is what sizes my ex's have been.
- October 23rd, 2009, 01:05 pm
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In HS I was a size 8. I played 3 sports including xcountry.

I guess sizes hae changed a lot?
- October 23rd, 2009, 01:22 pm
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