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I would go bowling with you but I will have to tell you I am not very good.
I know this is irrelevant to the discussion, but I wanted to point out that this kind of statement ("I like X but I am no good at it") is a huge turn-off, whether in a profile or in general communication. To me it says that you don't like the activity but are afraid to say so.
- October 23rd, 2009, 06:47 pm
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melman wrote :
I know this is irrelevant to the discussion, but I wanted to point out that this kind of statement ("I like X but I am no good at it") is a huge turn-off, whether in a profile or in general communication. To me it says that you don't like the activity but are afraid to say so.
I don't think that is true at all! I always have fun when I go bowling, but I really svck at it. Seriously, my average is like 50. I consider any ball that doesn't go in the gutter a success. But I have a great time laughing at myself, and if the guy is any good at it I will always accept his coaching.

The same can be said for billiards. I svck at that, too, but some of my favorite dates have been playing pool.
- October 23rd, 2009, 07:39 pm
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melman wrote :
I know this is irrelevant to the discussion, but I wanted to point out that this kind of statement ("I like X but I am no good at it") is a huge turn-off, whether in a profile or in general communication. To me it says that you don't like the activity but are afraid to say so.
I don't agree either. I love bowling but say I'm not good at it. When I then kick their arses with my bubblegum pink bowling ball - I just say its beginner's luck
- October 23rd, 2009, 07:44 pm
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That's fine. I just think that talking about how you're no good at the activity when you're asked, sends a mixed message. "Sure, I'd love to" is much more positive and straightforward.
- October 23rd, 2009, 07:59 pm
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- October 23rd, 2009, 11:48 pm
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karaoke? that could kill any romantic feelings.
Bwahahahahahaha!!! Too funny!
- October 25th, 2009, 09:09 pm
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