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PY_2 wrote :
I'd actually call the restaurant ahead of time, give the waiter $5 and told them..."if my date ordered anything more expensive than $6.50, you just tell her that you're out of that for the evening, so she might just get stuck with salad and a glass of water"

Maximum damage control $11.50
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PY_2 wrote :
I'd actually call the restaurant ahead of time, give the waiter $5 and told them..."if my date ordered anything more expensive than $6.50, you just tell her that you're out of that for the evening, so she might just get stuck with salad and a glass of water"

Maximum damage control $11.50
my kinda guy ahahahahahahah
- October 26th, 2009, 12:59 pm
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my kinda guy ahahahahahahah
It's called Financially Responsible..it's number one on my must haves
- October 26th, 2009, 01:02 pm
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Maybe if the time it takes to save the money is longer than it takes to earn that amount. If there were a $.50 coupon for something at the grocery store, but it took half an hour to cut it out (it won't but bear with me on this), then is it worth 30 minutes of your life to save fifty cents?

If, for example, one's income is from an irrevocable trust, they get more per month than they usually spend, and have no reason to save up because the trust eliminates the need for saving for retirement, and what's left over at the end of the month is in the hundreds or thousands then is it really worth it to that person to spend their time clipping coupons to save a dollar here or a five spot there, as opposed to spending that time doing something enjoyable?
Not for a .50 coupon at the store, but maybe for a 10-20 $ meal at a
restaraunt. And I would think that people that have more money than they can ever manage to spend, would be the exception to the general population. However, there are many wealthy people that do "clip coupons" , time worthy or not. I personally think if I had the resources to do so, I would spend my excess on a worthwhile cause rather than spending because there were no limits.
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I personally think if I had the resources to do so, I would spend my excess on a worthwhile cause rather than spending because there were no limits.
I've always considered myself a worthwhile cause
- October 26th, 2009, 01:27 pm
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Been around here for a while and have watched all of this turmoil over paying/not paying etc. I never understood why it was such a touchy subject until now.

Are you saying that it is 'common' for women to use this as a litmus test? That is just ridiculous and tacky, wimpy, weak, childish, ugh, ridiculous!!! Why wouldn't you just COMMUNICATE? Why would you play a game like that??

AARGH! I think I have an entirely new understanding of where D_Lion is coming from on this subject.

(BTW, D_Lion, if you've been dealing with this, you MUST have some baggage! This is definitely baggage producing behavior. )
The meaning of this behavior has been grossly misinterpreted across the genders. Many women insist they will willingly contribute to a date if asked. That's great, but that's not what men are upset about. What men are upset about are her actions after making the contribution.

This game also assumes -- and erroneously I might add -- that if a man accepts a woman's offer to contribute to a date in this age of gender equality, he's always doing it because he's not interested in her. This is not true.

In my opinion, if women think it is so obvious to them -- and to men -- that the man should pay for the first few dates, then she should do nothing and say nothing when the check arrives. Wait to see what he does, since he supposedly knows what he's supposed to do. Don't complicate things by offering to pay if his acceptance of your offer will get him dumped.
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Sucia1969 wrote :
Not for a .50 coupon at the store, but maybe for a 10-20 $ meal at a
restaraunt.
I don't know if it's just me because I don't clip coupons, but the only one I've seen lately that would knock that much off a meal are the 2 for 1 offers you get when you join local PBS and get their membership card that works at a lot of restaurants.

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...I personally think if I had the resources to do so, I would spend my excess on a worthwhile cause rather than spending because there were no limits.
Sometimes you get a twofer and do both.
- October 26th, 2009, 06:13 pm
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PY_2 wrote :
I'd actually call the restaurant ahead of time, give the waiter $5 and told them..."if my date ordered anything more expensive than $6.50, you just tell her that you're out of that for the evening, so she might just get stuck with salad and a glass of water"

Maximum damage control $11.50
I love tapas and mezza because I love variety in food, and each is usually $6.50 or less. So if you were with me you'd still end up paying more than $11.50 because I usually order more than one of these little things.
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I think people should just order what they want to eat.

i wouldn't want someone to eat something that they really didn't want because i was paying- I would want them to enjoy themselves.
- October 26th, 2009, 06:40 pm
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