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jaspoura is offline jaspoura Post #1  October 21,2009, 10:55pm
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I have a couple questions for the guys out there.

Ok, so what are some sure-fire signs that a guy has lost interest? Signs that a guy might have a commitment phobia? What do guys do when they think they found someone they maybe interested in pursuing a relationship with but aren't sure?

I mean, not the obvious things like he says I'm not interested, or I'm dating other people, but signs that are more hard to see. When he's still calling, still talking, but you get the feeling something may be up, that he's not entirely there. Since it seems that guys are being less than forward nowadays I'm finding it harder to understand them and could definately use some input about these things from real guys.

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Honestly, there's only one sure-fire way to know these things ...his actions.

The answer to all of your questions is simply this - Judge this by how much of his time and attention he is willing to give to you.

- text messages and phone calls not being returned in a reasonable amount of time

-he's overly "busy" more often than not.

-he chooses to spend time with his family and friends on a regular basis rather than with you.

Of course, these are overly generalized and only valid if they are done as a 'pattern of behavior' rather than a unique instance. Just because he says he's 'busy' one night doesn't, in and of itself, mean that he's not interested ...it means he's busy, but if he's 'busy' enough times to the point where you are asking yourself if he's even interested in you - he's probably not. Go with your gut on these things.

The bottom line is, if he's interested in pursuing a relationship with you (and, unfortunately, this also includes an "only sex" relationship - there are other signs of that), he'll make time for you.
 
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I feel that if the I guy is respectable and apprechiates your company he usually pays. However do leap for the bill or ask how much it is. Just say I have $10 or $20 whatever. Based on his response, you should know what to do.
 
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Hummm. I don't see guys as all the same anymore that women. On signs one has no interest. Myself I say so if I'd been associating with some for a short time (I don't mean e-mail communicating; that's just cyber glancing across the bar).

Oh, I have heard, even used the common phrase "I don't know what I want." It is more that we don't want to open ourselves to a "nagging/controlling" partner if we don't feel we can make a go of it. Oh, guys will have sex with on aunt if they feel they won't be exposed to harrasement, expecatations. Even then some guys (and girls) are quite apt at just cutting another off to protect themselves. Again, unless obslutly satisfied that women is intersted in sex for its won sake, I wouldn't bother. This incudes if they've had too much to drink, are distressed over something. etc. The other men I most admire are like that. That isn't a lot. Then again, I behave as I expect my sons; fast if not becoming young men to behave. I'd certainly be angry if I felt they had unduly hurt a women. I also can be flippant in this regard, as I have plenty of options for sex. What I don't have many chances for is to grown and develop with a parter. And that can not happen at all unless we're open with each other from the begining. Thus, if a guy doesn't speak his mind clearly with you, I darn't say there is much commitment. Of course, you might not like or listern to what they say.
 
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BikerBeagle wrote :
Honestly, there's only one sure-fire way to know these things ...his actions.

The answer to all of your questions is simply this - Judge this by how much of his time and attention he is willing to give to you.

- text messages and phone calls not being returned in a reasonable amount of time

-he's overly "busy" more often than not.

-he chooses to spend time with his family and friends on a regular basis rather than with you.

Of course, these are overly generalized and only valid if they are done as a 'pattern of behavior' rather than a unique instance. Just because he says he's 'busy' one night doesn't, in and of itself, mean that he's not interested ...it means he's busy, but if he's 'busy' enough times to the point where you are asking yourself if he's even interested in you - he's probably not. Go with your gut on these things.

The bottom line is, if he's interested in pursuing a relationship with you (and, unfortunately, this also includes an "only sex" relationship - there are other signs of that), he'll make time for you.
Disagree with that statement. The only "sure-fire" way to know is to just flat out ask him. If he is still calling, etc. then his actions are "saying" that he is still interested.
 
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jaspoura wrote :
I have a couple questions for the guys out there.

Ok, so what are some sure-fire signs that a guy has lost interest? Signs that a guy might have a commitment phobia? What do guys do when they think they found someone they maybe interested in pursuing a relationship with but aren't sure?

I mean, not the obvious things like he says I'm not interested, or I'm dating other people, but signs that are more hard to see. When he's still calling, still talking, but you get the feeling something may be up, that he's not entirely there. Since it seems that guys are being less than forward nowadays I'm finding it harder to understand them and could definately use some input about these things from real guys.

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Trust me you girls are not at all honest, open and forward either.
 
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This is an interesting question. I will have to take note of what the guys say so that I will know what I am supposed to do (or not do).
 
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DennisWisconsin is offline DennisWisconsin Post #8  October 22,2009, 6:06am
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If he says he has to wash his hair tonight... That is the biggest sign...
 
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If he says he has to wash his hair tonight... That is the biggest sign...
I would never say that, because my hair is so oily and greasy, I never even have to change the oil in my car,

I just shake my head over the crankcase, sometimes.
 
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6dle899 wrote :
I would never say that, because my hair is so oily and greasy, I never even have to change the oil in my car,

I just shake my head over the crankcase, sometimes.
Perhaps you should change your name from 6dle899 to 6dle10w30..
 
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