jayjay is offline jayjay Post #131  October 21,2009, 5:15pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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LOL! Perhaps the Shakespeare quote is appropriate now afterall.
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bigfincat wrote :

It may be hard to tell but some men that don't sell the protector image well are actually big on that as well. They are just not obvious about it. Many men will protect when the need comes up. It is truely rare that an actual event would come up so it can be hard to tell.
Personally, I really don't need that either. I mean, it's sweet and cute when a guy insists on killing a bug and i appreiciate it, but i really don't need a protector, for reasons I outlined earlier in the thread- I just want a boyfriend.
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I am not sure if I can or want to talk you out of switching teams but you definitely will find what you want from my team... I would suspect in the not so far off future.
I hope you are right, but honestly, it's never been this difficult. ever.
 
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redevil999 wrote :
OMG!

You're now responsible for jumpstarting my libido??!!

How are you going to manage this task without revealing anything about yourself... hmmmm?
he lets me do all the talking.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #134  October 21,2009, 5:19pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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he lets me do all the talking.
What is he doing while you're talking?
 
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I'm a bit puzzled about this response. I asked a question, the answer included a somewhat vague term that could vary from person to person. I wanted clarification, so I asked for it. I really don't see who, in this exchange, could be a teacher or a student.
My apologies. I guess a little more input would have helped. For example, how you define personal achievement as a means of seeking the clarification as to what my belief in personal achievement is. A teacher in an exchange would be the person asking questions without feeling the need to invest the time to explain the rationale for why they are asking the question and leaving it to the student to suss out their motives.

I do believe that satisfaction in one's career is an admirable goal, but one can be satisfied in their position and not be ambitious. A person who isn't ambitious isn't necessarily a slacker, they just have different goals from the ambitious person and likely a different view on work life balance.
 
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jayjay wrote :
What is he doing while you're talking?
what do you think?
 
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redevil999 is offline redevil999 Post #138  October 21,2009, 5:26pm
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he lets me do all the talking.
If you're talking, I'm listening!
 
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I know you're listening to me, too ... even if it's hard to admit!
 
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Okay, okay, coming in late too.

I'm reading all kinds of posts about "equality", and I agree that a lopsided relationship never works well. But I don't see that we need to contribute the same things, either. It's a bit redundant for both people to be really good at the same stuff. Maybe I don't bring in anywhere near as much money as he does, but I make a kicks$$ mahi mahi en papillote (which I do, by the way). Maybe he's not good as good at dealing with emotional family members in crisis as I am, but he can network and use connections I could only dream of to find them a new job within a week.

It's not a matter of contributing like for like and absolutely equal, it's seeing that both people contribute in the ways they are capable, in an amount that makes both feel they are valuable and cared for.

Yes, I like the traditional roles. After working all day at my ManJob, I desperately want to be a traditional woman. And I do see the man's role to be that of taking care of me. And that's my role as well, to take care of him. We just do that in the ways we mutually agree are best for us.
 
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